There's no weight limit. You have to decide for yourself whether you've had enough. All the advice columnists in the world can't help you - they can tell you what they think is outrageous behaviour but they'll disagree among themselves. First step is to tackle him - tell him you don't like whatever he's doing and ask him to stop. If he loves you he'll do his best to do so. If he doesn't, it's up to you to decide whether it's a deal-breaker. Judging from your title line, it sounds as if you have already done so. Husbands aren't ***** (whatever it may be). If yours is, then perhaps it's time he wasn't your husband.