I don't have any 11-yo boys, but I do hate to see a question without an answer, so here goes. I went to a wonderful pubic school, no girls or any other sort of liberated "multicultural" nonsense, we wore boaters, the cane was used, and we used to whop your school regularly at all gentleman's sports. I say "we" but for my part I managed to skive off football, cricket, fencing, gliding, boxing, swimming, chess, and Physics. As a result I am now a craven coward, but I have survived to 29-yo and am quite well balanced.