I was just in the canteen watching tv as you do in the morning

[Lisa1983]

and Lorraine Kelly is talking about how it may be good to have an affair when married, wtf! is this the way to go? Can an affair spice up a marriage?

[4getmenot]

well why do you think some people do it

[~spaced~]

Ive never had and never would have an affair, but I cant see how it would make anyone's marriage better. What about the children involved? If you stray there is obvioulsy somethng wrong with the relationship.

If having an affair helped spice up marriages, I think you would have all marriage concilours (sp) advising you to do it, when in fact they do not.

So my answer is no, it wont. Make it worse if anything

[funnygirl]

I am a jealous person at the best of times, so you can imagine how I would be!!!

I would have knives at the ready to stab him, guns to shoot him and I would give him a bobbitt job!!!!

[Lisa1983]

I just think its a weird thing to say "have an affair to spice up your marriage", if you need an affair when you're married you shouldn't be married. IMO

morning ~spaced~ : ) how are you this fine day?

[Nice-Legend]

ONE OFTHE DAFTEST THINGS IVE EVER HEARD.
i doubt shed say that if her hubby was caught doing the dirty?
Strange how its referred to as doing the dirty and not helping your marraioge isnt it ?


Crazy mad scots bint lorraine.
Though she is incredibly nice she seems to lack a bitof brains .



" Nice to see you all today.Yes even you ! "

[daffidazey]

I agree with spaced, if you are straying it is because there is something wrong with the relationship.
I am in a happy, secure relationship and would never consider straying x

[Nice-Legend]

Might not be the relationship thats wrong.The person may just be aa wrong un?There are many folk who stary often and couldnt care less for their partner or their welfare.Not a bad relationship just a bad person .There certainly are some like that because ive met some of them in my time.





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[Lisa1983]

I had 7 answers here now I have 5, where did they go?

[gina32]

she was on about a book someone in america had written about having an affair whilst married

[cazzz1975]

putting the person you are supposed to love through the agony of an affair just to spice things up??

I think it would have the opposite affect, the trust would be gone for starters

[tigerlily11]

I really can't see how it would help a marriage.
Most people don't like the thought of their partner going somewhere else.
I certainly wouldn't because a) There is no one else I want. and b) I wouldn't like if H did it so I wouldn't do it to him.
I used to know some one who thought an 'open marriage'Would be a good idea. Boy did that end in total misery.

[Lisa1983]

aw thanks gina32, i didn't catch it all