I don't think its necessarily about chasing - sometimes men just need a kick in the right direction to know you are interested (if I had not have done that, my (ok, now ex) husband, would have had no idea I was "interested",thick b@sta@rd). And in these days of equality, I fail to see why the bloke should do all the work. But nonetheles, I would NEVER risk an established friendship over a guy. Me and my best friend have been close for 20 years, whereas men come and go (and you can read that in two ways!)