kids used as pawns

[topman9thnov]

why do women use children as pawns,such has you will never see your children again if you dont agree to everything they say. ex wives I'm talking about.? has anybody else got the same problem

[andy hughes]

I don't have this problem personally, but I would think that in some cases, the's the only 'weapon' a woman can use to neogiate with. If she has nothing else the man wants, she may be reduced to this emotional blackmail, but this is a sever generalisation - every case is individual.

[mumma]

HUGE generalisation!  Not all women use their children as pawns and not all men are innocent of it either!  Either way it is not acceptable, but please don't tar us all with the same brush because you are having a bad time of it.

(BTW I'm happily married with one child and a step child.  Me and my husband have a good relationship with his ex because they learned to behave in an adult manner for the sake of their child, even though they had issues between themselves.)

[Marvin84]

I am a child of all this crap.... believe me when I say - it sucks on ALL sides.... nobody wins.... least of all the child...

[badger1969]

I have had this problem for the past 6 years.  My ex moved to Basingstoke, I went up there every two weeks to collect the children for the weekend, if I wasnt on time, i wasnt allowed to see them.  They moved to Telford.  I had my children for two weeks in the summer holidays this year.  Because I had them for this period instead of just the weekend i did not see them until w/e 26th November.  If I did anything wrong, I wasnt allowed to see the children.  This has effected  the children in a big way and now they want to live with me and not my ex

[SGKelloe32]

I have to say, i split from my partner last week, and he had our daughter for two days and two nights last monday. I rang on the tuesday to see if shehad been ok, and lo and behold he had left herwith his mother whilst he went to the pub!He had been out both afternoons when he was supposedto be spending time with her, so i said that ifhe can't put the time into looking after her, thenhe isn't gonna see her. But i want nothing off himand nothing to do with him, so he isn't having to agreewith everything i say, so mine is a valid reason, i would never use my daughter as a way to get at him, because she hasn't done anything wrong!

[dirtyharriet]

My partner's ex stoops to this level on a regular basis. In America I believe they call it Parental Alienation and it's taken very seriously, however in the UK, it's almost encouraged.

[dyan]

I am from the united states and trust me they won't do a thing to these crazy ex-wives. My husbands ex-wife does this type a thing all the time. We have gone to court, spoke with the court mediator, etc. Our lawyers say the courts will always side with the mother. These ex-wives that think they are being so clever don't realize the constant hurt the are placing on the children. They should be thrown in jail for neglect and emotional and mental abuse to a child.