need to get over someone

[SHELLP]

I have posted about this previous i have split with my partner 5 weeks ago after 4 years together. he was violent towards me and is due in court. i have friends who are encouriging me to go out and have spoke to a few men but i cant be bothered to get back into the dating scene. I spend all my time thinking about him and wanting to text him. I have heard he is seeing someone 20 years younger than himself with a small child and was seeing her within a few days of us breaking up. I cant sleep for thinking what he is doing and if he has just forgot about me. I cant contact him because of the court case and his bail conditions mean he is not allowed to contact me but I see him round and about. Please help I need to get my life back on track. When I go out I cant relax and enjoy myself for thinking of him. I am on antideppresants and sleeping tablets and know there is no way we can get together again even if that was what i wanted and not sure it is just hate the thought of him being with someone else so soon after what he did to me.

[Ice.Maiden]

Some people can put a brave face on to the world, and it doesn't mean that your partner's feeling any less anxious about the impending court case than you are. That's by the by. It sounds as though you can't accept that your ex's found someone else so quickly, and whilst it may hurt right now, you don't know how lucky you are to be rid of him. Eventually, when the time's right, you'll meet someone else, who'll hopefully treat you well. Once your self esteem comes back, you'll wonder why you were ever thinking like you do now. Best of luck.