Bereavement - what to do?

[10ClarionSt]

My brother-in-law died last October. He'd been married twice. 2 sons from his first marriage, 1 son from his 2nd.
A few days after the service, the youngest son collected the ashes, but didn't make any payments. 10 months later, I've got the undertakers phoning ME about HIS bill. If it was my decision, I'd leave it to run it's course, but the rest of the family want to dispose of the ashes according to the deceaseds' wishes. And we don't know if that has happened. Some of them want to pay the bill and have it done with, but will they get the ashes? The youngest son is called Andrew Cooper, of Woodvale Court, Hollins, Middleton, Manchester. I think he's besmirching his fathers' name in behaving like this.

[terambulan]

If it were me, I would settle the bill so's the undertakers were not out of pocket. The son may have his reasons for not paying (no funds etc).

U could take the son to court to claim the cost back. Surely tis better to clear ur bruvs debts? Also the son is ur nephew......life is long, you will have ur reward of his respect, in time!


10ClarionSt,,,,hope that's not ur address in Manchester....?

[terambulan]

Am not probing....10 ClarionSt.....but you've all been thru a distressing time and maybe hold illfeelings.

But BILaw needs to RIP so for his sake.....if u can afford it, settle or forward bills to son, informing U/takers.

[Ethel]

Well I've printed this out and popped it in the post to your brother in law.

It worries me that you can't see how very wrong it is to put those details here.

And I don't believe for one minute your real name is 10ClarionSt, so saying your details can be found on the web is a complete nonsense.

[puddicat]

Ethel let it be, both of you are getting pretty irate with each other!!!!

[Ethel]

Well of course the ashes should be disposed of in accordance with the deceased's wishes.

And of course the bill must be paid.

If one person has the ashes, the only way to find out what he's done with them is ask him.

Send the bill back to the undertaker with a note saying you are not liable.