can any1 help........

[stokemaveric]

my dad is very ill in hospital and the doctor has said he wants to see my mother tomorrow and has asked if a member of the family can be with her.......is this likely to be really bad news?thanx in advance...............

[sara3]

sorry to hear this update, Stoke. no one can 2nd guess this but maybe it might be time to move your dad to a hospice. that doesn't necessarily mean it's coming to the end, but I've heard that they're so much more restful than being in hospital.

fingers crossed for you and your family x

[chicho,bird2]

sorry to hear that
but it does sound like bad news

hope your ok xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[stokemaveric]

thanx a lot thats much apprecieated,he has emphysemia and they think he has lung cancer as well,he has been too weak to do a camera or even a biopsy they have done bllod tests this past week,so i guess its not looking too good,thanks again.....

[funnygirl]

Sorry to hear this.

This scenario brings back bad memories for me!
I really hope it is not bad news for you.

[Alex.Mahone]

It's probably to discuss a hospice as the stage has been reached where hospital treatment has ended, there are some wonderful hospices though and he will get all the care and support he needs. However if he wants to spend some time at home that is another option.

[bigmamma]

Sorry to hear of your fathers illness stokemaveric , the doctor may want to discuss your fathers treatment and his present condition , and , knowing that your mother may only pick up a third of what he tells her , he has asked another member to be there to fill in the missing info , and to give your mum some support. x

[rabbitygirl]

It could be stoke. But if doctors are explaining anything, or giving bad news, at a time of great upset and stress, it's very difficult to take in details.

I was given bad news about my dad when on my own. When I had to speak to my mum I was shocked how little I'd taken in.

If it is bad news, you may be surprised at how well you deal with it. If you are with your mum, and it is bad, you are likely to be concerned for her. It is surprising the strength that comes to us during these times.

I hope it is better news than you are fearing.

[stokemaveric]

thanx to all of you,the family is really devestated at how rapidly he has become ill.....you are all very kind......

[Alex.Mahone]

I know it seems like your world is coming to an end right now but even though you dont believe it you will come through this, stick together as a family and lean on each other, i have been where you are and my thoughts are with you.

[stokemaveric]

thanx alex,i must admit it is like a nightmare..................

[Alex.Mahone]

I know it is with you 24 7 and nothing seems real, you function on autopilot, but your father needs your support and your stronger than you think in situations like this, just take it one day at a time live in the present and you will cope.

[20SilkCut]

Stoke, if you can bring along a few members of your family it will help when listening to what the doctor has to say. It will allow each member to ask the doctor questions etc. Depending on the news, your mum will need lots of support, as will you and any other brothers/sisters etc. My heart goes out to you (as i am mentally replaying a similar experience of my own). However, you will all find the strength from somewhere to cope with what the future will bring. I'll say a wee prayer for you tonite. Let us know how everything goes. x

[daniela31]

I was really sad when I read your post stokemaveric.
I too have been in a similar situation, and at the moment I expect it feels like nothing else matters to you, and that all you can think about now is your father, mother and the rest of your family.
It is a perfectly natural feeling, but just to let you know, others do understand, and are thinking of you right now.
I said a prayer for you and all your family when I first read your news.
Let us know how everything goes.
xxx