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[nkostyuk]

i would like to know how to not scare the man away with the things that I want from a relastionship, and im talking about when starting a relationship. What can or cant I do?

[jno]

at the start, just enjoy yourself. After all, your own wishes may change as the relationship grows. You might come to think some things are important and others less so than you think now. It's up to you to find someone you like - don't just find someone you consider less than perfect then expect him to change.

[onlyme26]

The best thing to do is just be yourself, if you worry about what you can and cant do or can and cant say, you will end up saying things you think he wants to hear or doing things you think he wants you to, and he may see right through that.

Just be yourself and enjoy the start of a new relationship, we as women always seem to want the whole marrage and settling down thing before men anyway!! and they know this!! so dont worry too much

:o) xx

[pmorris1961]

I think the things is to be honest without being totally upfront, I think its okay to say for example

1) I am looking for a relationship that is working towards being a long term committment and although this might not be it, i would like to get to know you better on that basis and it would be lovely if it works but if it doesnt then okay

it is not okay to say tooooo early

1) i really want to be with you and ive already decided in my mind that your "the one" and i want to marry you and have your babies.


its okay to say................

2) i want an exclusive relationship whilst we see if it could work and would rather neither of us slept with anyone else.

but its not okay to.......................

2) i hate you looking at any other woman in the room and lets just not go there with regard to your ex !!!

its all about balance, dont lie - never ever if you can help it, but dont put all your cards on the table until you have to...............

[terambulan]

Treat him like a puppy. Lots of caring/feeding/treats.....get him into habitual walks often until he has learned to depend on you. Then start tightening the screws.