confused

[sarah*]

hey

im 18 yr old and im happy and grateful for everything ive got.but there is this guy that i know at work he is 19 yrs old and has a gf that comes to my college

at work he flirts with me loads and i know that he really likes me he is really nice and i really like him aswell but he is out of bounds for many reasons not just the fact that he is taken

he dosnt get along with his gf which is what he has told his mates but with me he opens up about everything apart from her he tells me he really loves her but then he compliments me on my clothes and tells me he is going to buy her that

i dont no what to do should i carry on talking or stop talking to him or should i carry on normal coz we both flirt like mad its really confusing me help

[bruce-lucie]

no harm in flirting, but if its bothering u then perhaps avoid him a bit.  He is probably very confused himself, and so maybe using u as a way to make him feel better.  But some people simply only know how to flirt as friendship, and that could just be him. As long as u convince urself that ur not interested even if the oppurtunity arose then u will be able to carry on a friendship.

[landie]

Let him know how you feel, speak plainly and openly so that there is no misunderstanding, he may be interested in finding out.

[undercovers]

STOP -what ever you do don't talk to him about it! the more plainly and openly you express yourself the more he will be put off - this is the unspoken rule of a flirting friend, a rule you break at your own peril e.g. you'll only end up looking foolish.

Flirting is the promise of a sexual relationship without a guarantee - and it is this lack of a guarantee that makes the promising more exciting. If you don't like it then stop - but do not kid yourself that you can change the rules of this relationship now

[landie]

What's the point of perpetual flirting as a relationship? You must be past that stage by now, go for it.

[Blackmore]

Absolutely leave it. he is flirting to make himself feel like an alpha male and is lapping up your attention - you can only be with one person - if its you great if not leave it

[supastasia]

I think that you should let him know how you feel!