Advice needed

[Mrspoppins]

My husband has a female 'friend' in work. They have been working on and of as part of a team for approx 3 years. She has confided in him in the past about personal issues but he has always told me when she does. Recently he told me that they would go for walks at
lunchtime together (its in a busy area) in order to keep fit. I explained quite calmly that I wasn't really comfortable with that as I have family also working in the area and I wouldn't like them jumping to conclusions. He became a little defensive, questioning my trust in him and made me feel really guilty, but said that if it annoyed me so much, he would stop. I thought no more of it until the weekend, when his sister told me that she had met him and his 'friend' driving out of town so deep in conversation that he failed to notice his sis parked next to him at traffic lights. When I told him he had been seen, he said they'd only been walking to the bus stop together, when i pointed out that they'd been seen in his car, he was visibly shaken and said that she had been pestering him for lifts home and texting him but he was too frightened to tell me as he knew it would upset me.. He let me read the texts and they were quite flirtatious in nature. My husband is an obliging person and I want to believe that he has no feelings for this woman but it is tearing my heart out. I really feel like she has destroyed the trust in my marriage. My hubbie says he will not be having anything to do with her again, but I've just called his mobile to see what time he wants dinner at and he was quite short on the phone, no 'love ya' at the end of the call the way he always does so I think she is in the car with him. This is ripping me apart and I really need another opinion. Please help!!

[lil75]

Beso, I would love to know what planet you are on....of course theres going to be an issue of trust, when lets remember here, her husband and this woman put the seed of doubt there!!! Any normal human would have a red flag raised, even if just a little one!

Im sure mrspoppins does appreciate her husband, otherwise she wouldnt have been bothered by none of it would she now!!!!

Take no notice mrspoppins....some people eh???!!!!

[ceejn]

Hmmm! Sorry but something doesn't quite ring true with this.He was seemingly ,"almost against his will" in the car with her picking you up from shopping,then went berserk at her when she made the comment about you spending all his money.A bit over the top i think and very defensive,sounds a bit like he doth protesteth too much,i'd watch out to see if he gives her any more lifts.
Hope i'm wrong, i really do ,but an ex partner of mine was seeing a girl at our workplace ,when i confronted her after rumours she blatantly denied it and he went well over the top with his denial explanations.They were both lying.

[Le Chat]

beso- my comments are not blatant sexism against men - It's just the truth. If you've got male friends (if you are a woman) then each and every one of them would have sex with you if they were given the opportunity. whether you wish to believe it or not.....it just is what it is! (unless they're gay of course) Why don't you try it out then, before you disagree with me again?

[beso]

Le Chat:

You are being blatantly sexist. You may have experienced men and women who fit your description. Perhaps this is a reflection on the kind people you mix with.

However your does not mean you can conclude this is the case with all or even the majority of men. I certainly know several men who disprove you hypothesis.

Pathetic people like you seek only to perpetuate the myths about men because they are afraid that they will loose their sense of identity as a woman.

Get over it.