Inconsiderate or Commitment Issues??

[wasntme]

How much do two people in a relationship have to share?
If I go somewhere with my girlfriends or cousins, do i have to inform him where i am going out of courtesy in case he had something planned first? even if it's a last minute plan and i know he has not planned anything for the evening? is it considered putting him aside when i do that?

and if there are things he does not like me to do, such as writing on my hand (I'm an artist) is it so wrong of me to continue to do so if i see nothing wrong with it?

Am i being considerate in all this?

[CheekyChops]

Well I think it would be polite to tell him where you are going rather than just disappear for the evening :-) I don't think it has anything to do with whether he has planned anything already but if you are part of a couple, you do generally tell your partner that you are going out.

I would just say, "I'm going shopping with Julie next Saturday" or something similar. If he has planned something, he should have told you about it!!

As for the writing on your hand, as long as you just do it at home whilst working then I can't see the problem. If you go for a nice meal with biro scribble all over your hand then I may be able to see his point...

[happyone2]

i agree with cheekychops, it is polite to tell your partner where you are going and he to tell you also...........and this applies whether something is planned or not.

With regard to the pen marks, thats more difficult, if he really really gets upset about it, then its up to you whether you stop doing it to stop him getting upset................ which is i think a nice thing to do because sometimes thats what people who are in love do for each other, and doubtless there are/wil be things that you dont like about him that he will change just to keep you ..........

however, if it happens that hes asking you to change too many things .................... then i question whether thats not a good thing !!!.................................. only you know if you need to change things and hes helping you with that or whether you two are just not suited.

xx

[onlyme26]

well there is 2 ways to look at that....

if he had something planned first and didnt let you know, then he isnt sharing info with you either????

so if you decided to go out with friends, and he said "hold on a minute i had plans" well really he should have told you first,

so on both parts i agree with the last 2 comments, its nice to just let them know, saves them worrying.

i always let my partner know what im up to, and he always lets me know,

as for the pen thing? why does it bother him so much? i guess its your hand and if you want to write on it you can

xxx

[terambulan]

People living together need to know of each others absences in case of problems.

I find writing on my hands is the only way to memorise for me. As for presentation in restaurants; who cares if you're paying the bill!

[brenda]

Is he some sort of control freak, why shouldn't you write on your hand if you want to do so.?