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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.You haven’t mentioned whether you find either of these women attractive, because this happens to me but only when I first start seeing someone I really like – I find it impossible to eat in front of them until I’m 100% comfortable with them.
Its weird and I don’t know why I cant eat in front of them but all I can put it down to is nervousness!!dude your normal!
i wouldn't go as far as to say it was a panic attack but i'm no expert. i'v had that feeling a few times and never thought it was a panic attack. either way i have that feeling too. i got it when i fell for my last girlfriend just thinking about her made me go like that and in front of her i felt kink i could be sick any minute after attempting to eat half what i had on my plate. but then it went when i found out she liked me too. i'm starting to have that problem now with a new girl i like. i just try to think about positive things and take my mind off of her being there or how i feel about her it helps a bit.
but trust me it's normal. i get a bit like it before i go on holiday it's nerves or excitment. it's natural.
The brain and stomach work very closely, I know that if I'm nervous my appetite will suddenly go. You are not wierd! Everyone has their insecurities/funny moments but they just don't talk about them. Perhaps you could just go out casually for a drink with your friend where you have the option to eat or not, so you can play it by ear. For example, sit in a bar with a bar menu and your friend can order food and if you wish, you could order 'nibbly' food. The pressure is then off for you soley going out to eat. You can still be friends with her without having to eat out as there are plenty of other things you could do together - cinema, shopping, walking, days out etc. Don't add to your concerns about worrying what SHE thinks about you not going out to eat. Are there any similarities with these two women who make you nervous? What is it about them that cause you to feel that way?
i wouldnt concentrate on making it a big deal because the more you focus on these two experiences the more of an issue you will make it.
It may not even of been a panic attack and just simply two occaisions where you were tired or had other things on your mind, something you wernt even concious of.
The best anti-anxiety tip whilst eating out is to avoid caffeine at all costs - tea, coffee and chocolate. People with high levels of anxiety appear to be more susceptible to the actions of caffeine
An old folk remedy is chamomile tea to reduce anxiety and also St Johns Wort supplements from a health food shop.
Thanks to everyone for your help & advice - I'm just hoping it is anxiety & really I can see no comparison between the 2 people it has happened with. I'll try not involving food for a while & see if that helps & maybe skip the caffeine too!! Its good to know that I'm not some sort of freak, so thanks for that too.
Everyone is worried about eating in front of strangers to some extent.
I used to work with a manager who would take potential recruits out to lunch at a chinese restaurant that would only give you chopsticks to eat with... if they lived through that without dropping dinner down their best suit then he would offer them a job!