23 month old not wanting her mum

[Tups]

I'm afraid she's going through a stage of telling her mum she doesn't like her and only wants Grandma! (Me!) She tells her mum to go away. My daughter, a single mum, is distraught and very down, which I think in turn is affecting her little girl. A vicious circle. Is this just a natural stage, marking the beginning of the Terrible Twos?

[fashionqueen]

Maybe try doing something you know she loves just the two of you ! I know this sounds like a pretty obvious answer but sometimes children play one off against the other and as you are a single mum it sounds a bit like instead of doing it with both parents she is doing it with grandma ! x My advise woud be to both sit down and set some boundaries about how she should and shouldnt speak to people and stick together when she beahves that way! x If she knows that this is getting to youo then BINGO she knows shes winning ! My daughter is 3 and she went thorugh this stage too so dont worry too much its not you ! Its just how you go about reacting to it ! she doesnt mean she is a child she just bprobably heard it somewhere and now she knows it gets to you she is using it as control ! x my biggest tip is stay calm be upbeat and be persistent x If you both stick together she will see u are united and wont win and eventually will come round ! I will be interested to hear how you are getting xx good luck

[lozzylou]

my son is 3 nd i went throught this all he wanted was my mum. only advice i can give is to be on your daughters side. if she screams cause s dont want to go home with mummy then just tell her things like

how about you go home with mummy and fnd your favourite toy and mummy will play with you. if she still complains just say, oh well if your going to be silly then you wont be able to come and play at nannies tommorow( or whenever)
this worked with my son and he stopped, someone elses house is always better than there own home, its not just your grandaughter

[myselfness]

sadly kids always know the worst things to say that really hurt, pregnant with my first so no personal experiences but watching my little sister with my mam writing things like "you make me feel worthless" (song lyrics she'd picked up sadly) all over her bedroom wall
just reassure your daughter its not her thats the problem its just kids being kids- im sure if you search your memory you'll find some things that your daughter said to you that hurt at the time but she wont even remember thinking.

as for little one shes getting attention because mum is keep on trying to get hugs or for her to stay with her- why not try ignoring it as best she can, she'll soon miss mums attention

[Tups]

Thank you all. I will pass on the advice. I'm always trying to encourage my grand daughter to look forward to going back to her mummy (I look after her one day a week) and tell her mummy is waiting to give her a cuddle. Hopefully, she will get through this stage soon. Then there will be another stage, and another and another ....!

[newtron]

Our daughter who is now four began to do that type of thing to me (her dad) a few months ago. She would say horrible things to me. I sat her down and said that I was her dad and that she had to be nice to me. I told her all members of the family have to be nice to each other and that she would get time out if she said mean things to me. This might sound harsh, but I feel strongly about teaching her to be nice to people, especially her family. She almost immediately started being nice to me again.