Do you know if your child is a bit ugly?

[Velvetee]

I know this is shallow, but did anyone else worry their baby would be a bit on the ugly side? Is it true all mothers think their babies are beautiful, even if they are not? My partner is a lovely guy, but wasn't blessed with the best facial looks, I really hope baby will be healthy, but also look more like me and not daddy.

[4getmenot]

you ever heard 'Beauty in the cradle ugly at the table'

[annie0000]

There is no guarantee that good looking parents have good looking kids and vice versa - I have seen some kids get the wrong mixture of genes with some unfortunate results! I have also seen some really beautiful looking kids that you would not believe are a product of their parents. It certainly makes life easier if you are good looking, but it isn't the be all and end all.

Most babies have something about them that is attractive. personally, i think that newborns are not that great to look at, but after a couple of weeks and when they fill out a bit get eyelashes, that makes all the difference. (Except for my own kids of course - who have always been gorgeous!!!!).

You will be worrying about everything about your baby right now, of course it isn't shallow to worry about their looks, as long as that is not the only thing that you are bothered about.

[Velvetee]

Regarding sticking out ears, does anyone think if when baby was born the ears were strapped down for a year or so, would this help to push them back, so that surgery wouldn't be necessary? I imagine the cartilage would be very soft and pliable at that point.

[onlyme26]

im sorry i did write you a quite nice reply before but after that comment about the ears!!!!

omg!!! you're a joke!! so what if your child has big ears!! will you not love them as much if they do!!???

i really dont see your point here!

and it IS a very shallow thing to think about!

i dread to think what you would try to do if the baby has a bigger then normal nose!!! or a strange birthmark!!!!

it doesnt even seem as if your concerned for the child! like maybe if the child has bigger ears or some other feature that is slightly different that they may get picked on in school, you just seem bothered about yourself and what people would think about you!

seriously you need to reconcider you attitude about this, because if you start making comments about your childs looks infront of them when they are older you can do some serious long term damage to their self esteme!!!!!!

[onlyme26]

is this a wind up for peoples reactions???

[Bbbananas]

I'm sure it's just the hormones eh?

Makes you think & panic about all sorts of strange things that don't really matter, but get blown up in a pregnant woman's mind.

Velevetee you will, should, love your baby no matter what the little thing looks like.

[whiskeysheri]

Awww, c'mon, I think some of you are being a bit harsh!

I think it's very natural, Velvetee. Everyone wants a cute baby (after they know it's healthy), don't they? Given the image obsessed society we're living in. However, I also think it is natural for a mother to think their child is beautiful, and seeing as this is your first (and congratulations!), you won't have experienced that yet. There is a massive section in our local paper every year to support that, too. Pages and pages the city's "cutest babies." :o|

My friends and I are always bemused at our mutual friends that have had babies and gushed about how they really think their baby is the cutest they've ever seen, and they're really not. :)

[Velvetee]

ONLY ME, get off your high horse for God''s sake. I posted that question seriously after someone mentioned their child having an operation to pin back their ears. I genuinely wondered if there was some other way to deal with protruding ears, which many children have, so they would not need to go through the pain of having surgery.

Do not call me a joke you spiteful bint. The questions are posed in the pregnancy section purely because I want answers from other pregnant women, not the likes of you, so please refrain from replying and abusing me. You do not know me and I did not specifically ask you anything, so go and swivel.

[zzxxee]

it doesnt matter if your baby wont be beutiful in the conventional way after the experience of giveing birth your baby could have two headsand 12 arms but IT WILL BE YOUR BABY and will be lovely to you so dont worry

[puddicat]

So pleased for you velvet, hope you are still keeping fit,slow down though, swimming for you lady lol!!!

[cazzz1975]

most if not all mothers believe their children to be gorgeous, Im sure you will be no different. you will also learn that real beauty comes in many different guises

[sara3]

Velvetee, I saw some kind of medical report that said ears could be strapped back from birth, painlessly, and they do indeed end up closer to the head. babies ears are very soft, and I wished I'd seen something like that before my son had his ears pinned back.

I do think that once you have a baby, you look into their eyes and just fall in love with them. you will love seeing them take on yours and your partner's features as they grow and change, and it's all very sickly sweet!

you'll see...... :o)

[lozzylou]

sara was the op painful for him, my son isnt 3 till april and i dont know how i feel about these op's. i want to wait till he mentions it-if he ever does but at the same time i would like to do something about them before the teasing starts. i believe the youngest they will do it on is 3 though isnt it

[k8bailey]

Hi Velvetee. Congratulations!

I'll be brave here, and admit I was worried that my little girl would be ugly, and made several jokes about swapping her for a pretty one if she was a minger, or dying her hair if she was ginger (And before anyone starts - No, I don't have anything against ginger ppl, my mum's hair is naturally bright orange, it's just not something I'd choose for myself!)

I too worried that the baby might look like her daddy, who is great but no Brad Pitt! Anyway after spending 9 months worrying about all of this I gave birth to (in my opinion) the most gorgeous baby in the world!

I know she's not perfect she's had rash after rash on her face, she has bad circulation and spends a lot of time looking a bit blue and she's usually covered in sick (but thats another story) but to me she's perfect and I love her!

Also my brother was THE ugliest baby ever! My parents both told the midwife they thought he was hideous. But they do love him, and after a while he turned into a very hansome baby/child/man (he's 21 so technically a man, but....)

Its not shallow or wrong to worry about how your child looks it's part of wanting the best for him/her.

Anyway, I hope you have a very nice, stress free pregnancy. If looks are all you have to worry about, you should count yourself as very lucky!

[redcrx]

velvetee,
Im not pregnant but can i answer?
At the end of the day any concerns you may have about baby's looks disappear when he or she is born. All that matters is that they are ok.
Its true though, mum will generally think that her baby is the most beautiful baby ever on this earth.

[onlyme26]

From other pregnant women? not the likes of me???
I AM PREGNANT!!

look im sorry of i offended you, i dont know you personally and i never meant to upset you in any way,

im sure things like this do cross peoples minds, i just personally cant see why, but thats my view on it, obviously people have different views, if we were all the same the world would be a very boring place!!!

look ALL babies are cute! and when you give birth for the first time you will fall so inlove with the child you wont care if he had a foot growing at of its head!!! ( well ok thats a bit far) but you know what i mean!

ok im sorry xx

[cazzz1975]

all children are precious, regardless of their looks, there is too much abuse around these days :(

[Goodsoulette]

Its the sort of thing lots of mums do worry about when they are pregnant,my boys were very different looking babies, i spent all night wide eyed and staring at them after giving birth. I thought my second son was just as gorgeous as the first but looking back at pictures he did look a teeny bit like a baby chimp, not that I noticed then lol