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[mchlstbs]

my partners ex has caused me nothing but trouble for the past 5 year,when we got married it worsened and now she has decided to go and tell a solicitor that i harrass her and that i went to her door threatening to break it down and shouted in the street when in fact i have done no such thing i find this very upsetting that my name is blackened so she looks good,i am wanting to go to my own solicitor and feel this is the only way but im also worried that she could go to her solicitor again in another month or so and say ive done this kind of thing again when infact it never happened in the first place!

[bednobs]

what is a solicitor going to do with this inforation? Its not like its the police, who could arrest you or try and find evidence. who is your name blackened with and how do you know she went to a solicitor?

[mchlstbs]

because on friday i received a letter from her solicitor saying i had been harassing her! and they are aware of an incident that occured beginning of the month where i went to her door threatening to break it down and shouting in the street! i have done no such thing she has always tried her best to get in between us and cause as much aggro as possible and i cant see how solicitor believed this information without policr ref num/record to say i had done something like this.

[bednobs]

bt what i'm saying is, in the end it dosent matter what her solicitor writes to you. There is no substantiation, no police report etc.
All im saying is so what if they are "aware of" an incident (ie she's told them), they can't do anything except waste her money by writing to you. Who, apart from the solicitor has she blackened your name with

[mchlstbs]

oh what a story we were fine and got on until me n my hubby got engaged then she went mad and he has a dughter with him so thats where it all comes from that we cant get away from her,she now has his daughter hating me and speaks to me like crap,he doesnt see his daughter now because at 10 she has started to act as though she is 18,his ex then had her family on to me,texting,phone calls and they came to my door,i was poorly year gone january and she even stooped as low as to call me and say i deserved to die!! evil woman she was getting money for daughter then it stopped now she has gone to csa again this time through debt agency and they wanted to take 40% his wage so we stopped that as we have 2 kids together and we hadnt been assessed so thats why now shes decided she,ll go to solicitor which in letter states if i dont stop they will get injuction out against me when there are no references or anything to say i have gone to her house yes i have replied to the evil messages and phone calls but never threatened to break door down haha,she a horible woman though im going to see my own solicitor tomorrow i decided to at least put record straight with them!

[bednobs]

however i dont really understand what good going to your solicitor will do except to make you poorer and just perpetuate the whole situation. Wouldn't it be better to just remain aloof and non-communicative? it dosent matter if she is going to get an "injunction" (for what?) as you dont want to see her or go near her anyway

[Ethel]

So this is because your husband isn't paying maintenance for his child?

[bednobs]

also meant to say that even if she does get a court order, ordering you not to go near her or ring her etc, why shoud it bother you? You dont want to anyway!
If your husband has stopped child support, no wonder she is mad. kids have to still eat and be housed and get clothes, no matter what troubles there are between the parents. Having two other children doesn't make the first child cease to exist! and she will still always need paying for.

i would say your best course of action is to not answer the phone, record all messages she sends you (both in the sense of actually recording them ie answerphone and writing down any attempted contact with you) don't rise to her bait, no matter how vile she is with you. if you got evidence together she was harrassing you, you could get an injunction to prevent her doing it.

[mchlstbs]

child support is not the reason i have 2 kids myself and know what cost is of having kids definitely not �175 per week of ex husbands wage which is what she is fighting for she was getting �200 per month n then wasnt happy with that obviously wasnt paying for her weekends out n drugs enough,i have been to see my solicitor whowas happy to record it for me, i certainly am not wasting my time,money or effort into replying to her,she is a very sad and lonely woman and will almost definitely stay that way the reputation she has,thats why now i have had time to get over the anger of the situation i realise i must have something worth being jealous over she is a vile woman and money isnt the problem that is now sorted with csa and they are taking what should be not what she demands from us and that i think is why she is having a go at me!!