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I had a facebook message a few weeks ago off a guy I used to know through the church youth group.
We never had much to do with each other as he was older but we went on some similar stuff, both played the guitar and I went on a youth mission to Romania with his older sister. We had one embarrasing teenage phonecall potentially asking each other out but nothing more.
That was round 95-97 and I have seen him once since in about 2001 at his sister's wedding.
He wanted to come to manchester and me to help him dress up for a charity do. Makes me wonder why me after all this time when there are loads of girls he knows back home and he has family here.
I agreed to help which set off a barrage of e.mails and I felt like he was coming on a bit strong. Turns out there is no organised charity thing, just an idea of doing something.
I backed off and he txted me and has now sent another message apologising for coming on too strong but still wanting to meet for the charity dress up thing.
Argh, what do I do??? Still help or back off in case it's still an excuse to see me!!!
We never had much to do with each other as he was older but we went on some similar stuff, both played the guitar and I went on a youth mission to Romania with his older sister. We had one embarrasing teenage phonecall potentially asking each other out but nothing more.
That was round 95-97 and I have seen him once since in about 2001 at his sister's wedding.
He wanted to come to manchester and me to help him dress up for a charity do. Makes me wonder why me after all this time when there are loads of girls he knows back home and he has family here.
I agreed to help which set off a barrage of e.mails and I felt like he was coming on a bit strong. Turns out there is no organised charity thing, just an idea of doing something.
I backed off and he txted me and has now sent another message apologising for coming on too strong but still wanting to meet for the charity dress up thing.
Argh, what do I do??? Still help or back off in case it's still an excuse to see me!!!
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this is the problem with sites like facebook and friends reunited.
anyone who has your name can look you up and get in touch
theres a reason why folk havent heard from folk from school 10 , 20 or whatever many years ago
if you were that bothered you wouldnt have lost touch
so just tell him
thanks but no thanks
anyone who has your name can look you up and get in touch
theres a reason why folk havent heard from folk from school 10 , 20 or whatever many years ago
if you were that bothered you wouldnt have lost touch
so just tell him
thanks but no thanks
Aww bless, hugs to Colin :)
At first I didn't want come across as OTT, almost accusing him of having an ulterior motive but he has as much as confirmed it twice now by apologising for coming on too strong.
Half of me feels bad for not helping, especially if it's a charity thing as he knows I've done a lot of charity and voluntary stuff but the other just screams, run away....fast....
At first I didn't want come across as OTT, almost accusing him of having an ulterior motive but he has as much as confirmed it twice now by apologising for coming on too strong.
Half of me feels bad for not helping, especially if it's a charity thing as he knows I've done a lot of charity and voluntary stuff but the other just screams, run away....fast....
Must just add, Jen, that Leggy's right about if friends really want to keep in touch - they usually DO. I'm still in contact with schoolfriends, and any time we've changed addresses, we've always let each other know. Your friend probably remembers you for being good with charity events, so thought you'd like to help him, but if he's doing something for CIN, folk usually get official application forms or whatever for it. Do what you feel's right.
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