A boy from work

[Jammy.Dodger]

A boy from work asked me out yesterday. He is really good looking and all the girls like him but he has a bit of a reputation of sleeping around. I havent had a bf for 3 years. What should I tell him?
Tx

[redcrx]

how should we know. do you want to go out with him or not?

[Jammy.Dodger]

I do but I dont want to get used thats all.

[eash]

If you want to go out with him say yes if not not say no.

[LoftyLottie]

If you like him then go out with him. If you don't like him then say no. He may well have a reputation for sleeping around, but that doesn't mean you have to sleep with him does it!! Reputations are not always based on fact anyway.

[sqad617]

Open the conversation with "I haven't had a bf for 3yrs"
But be aware, he may give you a "Glasgow bf"

[eash]

In that case tell him you want to take things slow. If he doesn't want that then that's his loss...

[Sgt.Rock]

Be careful you may end up being very embarrassed if anything happens and he can't keep his mouth shut. Not nice having to face that in work every day.

[jenniprice]

If you like him go for it, but have your guard up and be wary of him.
Don't let him pressure you for sex or be controlling.

Give a timescale of perhaps atleast a month before sleep with him-depending how well you get on.
If he's still around after timescale then you know he likes you, and hopefully you can build a relationship.
If you feel that he's just after one thing then dont bother.

Just think though some people can get a bit of a reputation, but sometimes a special someone comes along that they really care about and they give that all up, that might be you, or you could just beanother conquest, only you can decide thow.

[joannie10]

sqad - whats a Glasgow bf?

[HJT40]

If you want to go out with him then go. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. Just see it as a bit of fun for now and see how it goes. Its only a date. You're looking too far ahead.

[redcrx]

so what did you say to him yesterday?

[sqad617]

joannie, just me being funny...or trying to be. Glasgow kiss is a but or biff on the head, just a bit of fun of her spelling of bit (bf) in her question.

[joannie10]

am glaswegian so know what a glasgow kiss is but thought I was missing something with glasgow bf, sorry sense of humour switched off.

back to the question though - if you like him go out with him, if you are worried about being used then dont allow yourself to be. If you get to know him a bit better and think he is likely to 'use' you is he really the kinda guy you want to be with. Maybe you could use him a bit? Don't listen to idol office gossip. Make your own mind up.

[Mamyalynne]

sqad bf is abbreviation of boyfriend

[sqad617]

LOL LOL LOL I thought it meant that she hadn't had a BIT for 3yrs LOL LOL. Sorry.

[Jenga]

This is what I suggest if your want to go out with him:

Never have a sexual relationship until at least 3 months have passed and he see's you most nights, If you meet up only once or twice a week then he might be getting it elsewhere. You should be able to tell what he is like if you accept a date and take things slowly.