in-laws and relatives

[princess007]

Can anyone help me... I have tried explaining how he old in-laws and relatives system works to my other half many times, but no matter how many times I tell him who will be who to us both after marriage he just doesn't seem to get it, he keeps thinking his sister will be my niece etc... I was just wondering if anyone knows of any good website that goes into it all properly and explains what the relation between both families will be?? any help will be appreciated!!

[graemer]

Isn't it just a simple case of telling him your parents are his parents in law and your brothers and sisters are his brothers and sisters in law and vice versa. All he has to do is add In-Law to what you call them.

[Quizmonster]

Click here for a website that enables you to calculate the meaning of such relationships as �second cousins twice removed' etc quite easily. I hope it helps with the in-law side of things, too.

[Clare A]

I looked at this full of anticipatory delight, Quizmonster, but found myself none the wiser. I'm sure I read the example correctly. My father's sister's daughter is my cousin Mary. Cousin Mary has a daughter Lucy. What relationship is Lucy to me? I've always been told 'second cousin', but the amount of 'removes' varies. I take it that whatever rule applies, applies to either side of the family?

[Quizmonster]

Dear Clare, the common ancestor shared by Lucy and you was your grandfather and her great-grandfather. So, look down Col 1 for Grandson/daughter (that's you). Read across the top row to Col 4, which is headed Great grandson/daughter (that's Lucy). Now read down to where row and column meet. There you will see "First cousin once removed". That's your relationship.

Many people nowadays claim that relationship is called "second cousin", but that is not accurate. By the way, I'm not a genealogist, so no more complicated questions please!

[greenday]

I'll use this as an excuse to put in one of my favourite jokes.

What is the difference between in-laws and outlaws?

Outlaws are wanted!