It's sooo difficult puss. After a frank discussion with my family about buying pressies, I decided that I'd only buy "consumables" for adults. Boring, I know, but for me, kinder in the long run. We all have too much of everything anyway.
Mind you, even that backfired on me. I used to buy my mother-in-law a hamper. I thought it was great. A Marks and Spencer luxury one. I would have been chuffed to bits to receive it myself.
Anyhoo, after several years of buying her this, she told me she didn't like receiving food as a gift - felt it inappropriate.
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