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Sweet Revenge?
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Recently I got back with an ex of two years.
I have always known that he intentionally and also unintentionally takes advantage of a situation or the people in it And he knows i know this.
About 3 weeks ago my ex completly ignored me not all by choice but work was very interruptive but he made no effort at all to even text me, When he wasnt ignoring me he borrowed my laptop charger and the next day returned hours after he said he would and stayed for a few minutes and then left and got into a car with his friend and two other girls.
After this week i sat him down and instead of getting angry, I sat him down and told him that if he didnt change towards me I would change towards him and treat him the way he treats me.
Suprise suprise just the other day he rang me telling me he'd come over to my house as he hadnt seen me in a few days, 20 minutes later he rings and tells me he has something to do that he forgot about and would ring me afterwards and might come out to me, I said ok and hung up.He never rang and never turned up, I later found out that night he went to a club with the same friend and two girls he was in the car with.Then the next day he completly ignored me as though i done something wrong on him.
So instead of getting angry as i usually would have i got even,
Yesterday i went out with two friends, I had a very good night but he never knew a thing about it as I decided not to tell him anything, same way he told me nothing.
But, By the end of the night I had no where else to go as i had left my keys in a friends house and I ended up staying in a friends house but he was someone i was dating a while back but we are just friends now as i told him I didnt feel anything for him in that way and the 'ex' knows this. Nothing happened with the friend. And i didnt stay in my friends house as any type of revenge against my 'ex'.
Do you think I done the right thing?
Whats your view?
I have always known that he intentionally and also unintentionally takes advantage of a situation or the people in it And he knows i know this.
About 3 weeks ago my ex completly ignored me not all by choice but work was very interruptive but he made no effort at all to even text me, When he wasnt ignoring me he borrowed my laptop charger and the next day returned hours after he said he would and stayed for a few minutes and then left and got into a car with his friend and two other girls.
After this week i sat him down and instead of getting angry, I sat him down and told him that if he didnt change towards me I would change towards him and treat him the way he treats me.
Suprise suprise just the other day he rang me telling me he'd come over to my house as he hadnt seen me in a few days, 20 minutes later he rings and tells me he has something to do that he forgot about and would ring me afterwards and might come out to me, I said ok and hung up.He never rang and never turned up, I later found out that night he went to a club with the same friend and two girls he was in the car with.Then the next day he completly ignored me as though i done something wrong on him.
So instead of getting angry as i usually would have i got even,
Yesterday i went out with two friends, I had a very good night but he never knew a thing about it as I decided not to tell him anything, same way he told me nothing.
But, By the end of the night I had no where else to go as i had left my keys in a friends house and I ended up staying in a friends house but he was someone i was dating a while back but we are just friends now as i told him I didnt feel anything for him in that way and the 'ex' knows this. Nothing happened with the friend. And i didnt stay in my friends house as any type of revenge against my 'ex'.
Do you think I done the right thing?
Whats your view?
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You don't say what age either of you are but from what you say, I guess you're both 'children'. Neither of you are ready to commit to a steady relationship so I would advise you to get out there, party a bit and enjoy life before he starts to dent your confidence. At the moment you don't need this hassle. Get rid! .... and good luck in the future.
It all sounds like game playing to me and point scoring. From what you say, it appears he has little respect or consideration for you.
Adult relationships are not based on he did, she did scenarios and trying to get revenge on each other. You probably should never have got back with this guy. Maybe it's now time to think twice bitten thrice shy!
Adult relationships are not based on he did, she did scenarios and trying to get revenge on each other. You probably should never have got back with this guy. Maybe it's now time to think twice bitten thrice shy!
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