in addition to being forgiven

[anthonysgirl]

My fiance I believe has not cheated on me. He tells me that he could never do that to me because he loves me too much. He tells me that if I don't do something about it and ever hurt him again that he is going to ruin my career and my life. He tells me that and that he loves me all with in a 30 minute window, and that we are going to work on it. I understand having rage, sometimes it is hard but I figure I have to be punished for what I did. I do have to say that the second time I did this that I stopped it right away because I felt so horrible. I tell him this but he never believes anything I say How do I get him to believe me?

[flobadob]

You have a terrible grasp of grammar. but that's not a dumpable offence, so don't worry.

[anthonysgirl]

well you all got what you wanted he's leaving me. He told me that I made myself sound like the victim when he is really the victim. I didn't mean to come off like that at all and I just want to make it very clear that I am the one who did the wrong doing not him. He is nothing but an innocent bystander that never deserved to be hurt this way. I want to keep calling him to tell him that I love him and that I want him to stay but from what you all told me I am a piece of S*** and I don't want him to hurt anymore. I can't make him happy anymore all I do ends up messed up and I just end up hurting him more I just want him happy.

[flobadob]

Lay off the drink. Tis bad for one.

[flobadob]

Also if this is serious go easy on yourself. To be honest I don't fully understand the whole story. If you cheated on the boyo then I don't know what you expect to hear. If you broke up for some other reason then think about what that reason was. In 80 years talk it over.

[cazzz1975]

I fear your good advice will fall on deaf ears IAP, she is the kind of person that will stay in that kind of relationship, the biggest clue was that she didnt feel that anything about her relationship was really wrong.

[ifonlyu2]

hey in a pickle what are you talking about. She cheated on him. Did you even read the other post. He is frickle because he doesn't trust her anymore. You can't say good for her breaking up with him. Because he is leaving her. Good for him. The bottom line is he is the victim not her. She commented the crime of cheating. Maybe you are cool with cheating but that isn't how a relationship should be. It should be between two people and only those two until they have kids. You people are miss the point. She cheated on him and continues to play the victim. I will bet this isn't the first time she has cheated either. Anthonysgirl why don't you tell him the truth there were others. In my lifetime I learned onething very well. There is always others. Once is bad enough but twice is even the worse. And more then twice destroys the soul. I think this guy is doing the right thing by leaving you and if I had anything to do with it then score one for the good guys that are faithful until the end. All I have to say is there is a double standard for women. If she cheats she is the victim but if a guy cheats well he is piece of $&@). And he was never good for you any way. I say f that. You want cheat go ahead don't expect it to be ok with the one you hurt. After all you will be judge acordingly in the eyes of god. I say good luck to you anthonysgirl ex boyfriend job well done.

[Velvetee]

Anthony's Ex Girl. The problem is, you are asking for advice, based on what you have told us. Most people will provide logical advice, but unfortunately, if you want to continue burying your head in the sand and acting in denial, there is nothing more that can be said.

If someone proclaims to love you, but wants to hurt you, ruin your life, can you not see this is NOT love. Your ex boyfriend does not sound balanced and nor do you, as you cannot see the wood for the trees.

You could benefit from counselling as you sound like you have various issues, including self loathing, low self esteem and confidence. Perhaps it's because you are quite young, but I'm sure many here would agree that you need some kind of professional help.

[ddaisy992]

you lost me when you said he wuld ruin you! Why stay with someone whose obviously controlling you? Get out of the relationship its not healthy, you dont trust each other so walk away.

[beso]

Your ex has been working at your head. He is self obsessed and has no capacity for compassion. You are better off without him.