Feeling bad as I've dumped boyfriend?

[mizfiesta]

I discovered last week that my boyfriend of 2 and a half years initiated contact with an old flame through friends reunited. I discovered a few emails (I know, I know, I checked his emails - feel rubbish that I actually did that) and noticed they had exchanged mobile numbers. Initially he denied even knowing her when I asked him who she was. He then admitted knowing/emailing her but only because he had heard her dad was unwell. He denied they had ever followed the contact up by calling each other on their mobiles. I of course asked to check his mobile phone. He had listed her in the phone book under her initials AND there was calls made and received from and to her mobile. He denied point blank to my face! Am I right in ending this?

[joggerjayne]

Aww, no, that's so sad.

Friends Reunited has a lot to answer for.

Ending a relationship is a horrid decision ... I did it mmeself earlier this year.

But ... if you do end it ... don't feel bad about it.

One of the few things that you should give to your friends, and your boyfriend, is complete, unquestionning, loyalty.

And you should expect to get the same back.

If you have that, then nothing else matters, and everything else works.

If you don't have it, then the relationship is built on shaky ground.

[sara3]

would you ever trust him again? he's not even being honest with you now..

[jen78]

I guess it could be two ways, either he's being dishonest with bad intentions or it is not with any bad intentions but doing it to prevent trouble.

Either way, honesty would have been far better. I am on contact, though moreso just the odd hi, how are you, with some of my exes and have had boyfriends who have also been in contact with theirs with no problem as it's all been honest and with no ulterior motive.

I do, however, question his continued lying once confronted.

One thing I would recommend though is watching potential issues like Facebook. I've only just removed my most recent ex, something I should have done a long time ago, after getting upset over his new relationship being publicised.

I just got upset over something else on there and got rid as it just prolonged the agony and I don't recommend it :)