You may think think this trivial

[TWR]

Does this ps you off? No, I am not getting a heart attack, no I am not getting Worked up, What I am getting is Psd off with people asking for help, With people going out of their way to find the solution to a problem an answering the members question and a nothing in return, I do not want a reward, I do not want a Halo, But if this is the way some of you, & I envisage some of you, well the way I beginning to think, SOD YOU TO. I will more than likely get some stupid comments over this, but this has become like a site I used to be a member of called Ask Your Neighbour, so if this is the case WELL, NEED I SAY ANYMORE?

[Bathsheba]

Feel better now? xx

[MrBen5]

I thanked you for your help.
I hope you dont expect monetary rewards for it :-o

[bednobs]

if you are getting annoyed with people asking for help, i think you are on the wrong site!

[TWR]

No, think about the Question in depth thats all.

[cazzz1975]

TWR the reality is that nothing on AB will really change, so you have to ask yourself if you are happy to continue to help people with little thanks, if not than maybe this isnt the right site for you.

we can agree with you or empathise because it happens to us all but ultimately we cannot change the way posters respond to replies so the thinking in depth is only for you

[MrBen5]

I cant think in depth, thats why i come on here.
Its a quick fix. There are so many clever people out there, why waste my brain cells (i dont have many as it is)...

[oldhamfan]

No way, deja vu

[Buenchico]

Just learn to accept the praise when it comes and shrug your shoulders when it doesn't.

I've posted over 10,000 answers in the 'serious' parts of AB. (i.e. excluding 'Chatterbank' posts). I've come to realise that a quck reply, which took 30 seconds to Google, might well get three stars and a very nice reply from the questioner. On the other hand, if I give up a night's sleep to research an answer (which I've done on many occasions) or go out at 1am for a 100 mile round trip to check my facts (which I've also done), I can almost guarantee that I'll never get any feedback from the questioner.

It happens to all of us. The excellent VHG recently posted so much useful information (in response to a question on travel to Paris) that he had to spread it over 6 posts. (I also posted a contribution which required 2 posts). Of course, that was one of the many occasions when the questioner couldn't be bothered to acknowledge any of the replies.

On the other hand, I've provided information on visiting Paris to the lovely Wingnut. She not only acknowledged my posts at the time but posted again, upon her return, to thank me for my help. (She even included a link to a picture of herself and Mr Wingnut taking a trip on the Seine. That picture is on my desk to remind me of all the nice people around here).

Another (American) questioner required so much information about visiting Paris (from his holiday base in London) that I found it simplest to join him on Eurostar and give him a guided tour. He seemed genuinely appreciative of my help.

As with life in general, the rule for happiness on AB is to smile when things go well and to ignore it when they don't.

Chris

[johntywino]

I only joined AB this week,and do try to thank everyone BUT I asked one question,waited about half hour for a response then left the site. On going back a couple of hours later found that someone had replied, then 10 minutes later had suggested that I had blacklisted him as I hadn't replied straight away!! Tis a hard life....

[Brooksy]

I think Chris sums it up well in the first 2 lines of his post. Politeness doesn`t cost anything, but one has to accept that not everyone is polite these days. Full marks to all of you out there who are though!

[Brooksy]

Yes, he does seem (literally) to go out of his way to help. Top man! Also I rank TWR`s posts very highly having read loads of `em. Stick around TWR & just take it on the chin.

[ChuckFickens]

I agree with your sentiments TWR, it is annoying when people don't reply to acknowledge a answer to their questions.

It's not even the lack of a thank you that I find the worse thing, I'm more interested in knowing if the answer actually helped and solved the problem.

But like the others have said above I've just come to accept that some people simply don't bother to acknowledge a response so I don't lose any sleep over it.

[Brooksy]

I also think doesnastythingtochookies has a point about knowing a) if one`s answer helped & b) if it was correct. Again, top man on this site.

[sad old git]

I know how you feel TWR; I joined AB to help or be helped by other members and this has worked well most of the time,but if you give a wrong answere to someones problem there is always someone who will ridicule it and shoot you down which brings me to the question where is Norman the dog these days as he was a pretty good tail gunner

[TWR]

Well, thank you all that give positive replies, As I have said It does not take as long to answer as to ask, I surpose I shall have to take more pills, & take it as It comes Again thank you all. Trebor.

[MAD BUTCHER]

Co-incidently, this is in Motoring section although it doesn`t specifically apply.

I say this, because in my opinion, the people who get worked up about not getting grateful thanks are the same as those drivers who get positively irate if they are not profusely thanked if they have given way. I find these idiots are so concerned about this that all other driving attention is forgotten. Just as these morons should not be in charge of a vehicle, the AB`s who put themselves in danger of a heart-attack should not be in charge of a computer!

[TWR]

Your name said it all.

[MAD BUTCHER]

I think my comment hit home! Good!