To grass or not to grass....

[Doolallygirl]

Very complicated situation, just wanted some opinions to help me decide what to do.

My sister's boyfriend was killed in a car accident a while ago leaving three kids (who lived with his ex girlfriend, not my sister). I have discovered that his kids are now on Facebook despite being well under the 13 year age limit.

Do I get them removed as I am worried for their safety/ability to distinguish between friend/foe or will it seem interferring of me? Also does anyone know if this is an anonymous process at all?

[Le Chat]

She is just looking out for some young and vunerable children...that's what it has to do with her and/or any person who sees an underagers on Facebook or the like.

Doolallygirl, I don't know the process but it matters not if it anonymous or not - If it is for over 18's, then they should not be on it.

[Lil O'lady]

They are below the age limit. End of. It is to do with you because you have expressed a sense of responsibility. You will not awlays meet with universal approval for this in this life but do not let that deter you. Act as you believe to be right.

[jen78]

Do you or your sister have any contact with the ex-girlfriend or other family who could have a quiet word with mum so she can keep an eye on their internet usage?

[Doolallygirl]

Not really as it's all turned a bit nasty between all parties as usually does when someone dies and people just want to get what they can from eachother i.e. estate and money etc etc.

I was of the same kind of opinion as Zacsmaster really that's why I asked for a general consensus on what I should do. It doesn't have anything to do with me you are right but I think it would be irresponsible of me not to act and I know that the boyfriend wouldn't have had his kids on there were he still alive. That's why I'm in two minds whether to act or not.

[Tups]

Just do it. There was a time when adults looked out for all the children they knew. Neighbours got involved because that was the way of things. What a pity those times have gone. These poor children maybe don't have anyone responsible left in their lives so it's up to people like you to help them.

[steven15]

I would really second that thought of Tups. we must feel the responsility on our shoulders. After all we are all here because of our posterity.

[mandimoo]

whilst i agree with you tups, i bet they wont thank you for it!

[angiebaby57]

They will thank her for it in the long run....I am sure you can do it annonomously, I know you can with BEBO - too many predators out there...I am a modern minded mum of 13 and 15 yr old so know the score! There are rules for a reason...Good Luck.

[Doolallygirl]

Have to admit I did it in the end. It was for their own good and totally anonymous. Thanks for all the advice guys.