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Should I say something? - Updated!!
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Just wanted to say a quick hello and thank you to all that posted answers to my question on 26/11.
So I guess i'd better update you on the situation.
Basically, we went out on the Friday night as arranged and she said all the right things and actually paid for the meal without being prompted or anything. We had a nice evening, and we were making plans for an evening on Sunday with her friends.
So all was good with the world again
Then Sunday evening came around.....
The 6 of us all met up in the evening. We went to a nice all-in-one bar/restaurant and dance club.
The evening went on nicely and we were all eating and drinking well (and running up the tab). And hitting the dance floor halfway throught the night she takes me back to the table (the others were still dancing) and says that the others don't have good jobs or much money and because we all were eating and drinking well she felt bad asking them to share the bill � so asked if I would pick up the whole tab??!!
I agreed, and told her to get back on the dance floor and enjoy herself � she did, and I stayed at the table and finished the bottle of wine. When she wasn't looking I just walked out, stopping at the bar on my way through to point her out to them and explained that I had to leave, but she would be picking up the tab at the end of the night, but could they also please send over to the table (and open) 2 bottles of champagne.
I've not seen her since, and decided to ignore her numerous calls and texts.
Even though my friends told me that this woman seemed like this, it was nice to see that you all agreed too. Also with all your help, I have been able to see that not all women out there are like this. Obviously I'm single again now (and do miss her a little), but will definitely be more careful when getting involved with people in the future.
So thank you to you all!!
Matt
So I guess i'd better update you on the situation.
Basically, we went out on the Friday night as arranged and she said all the right things and actually paid for the meal without being prompted or anything. We had a nice evening, and we were making plans for an evening on Sunday with her friends.
So all was good with the world again
Then Sunday evening came around.....
The 6 of us all met up in the evening. We went to a nice all-in-one bar/restaurant and dance club.
The evening went on nicely and we were all eating and drinking well (and running up the tab). And hitting the dance floor halfway throught the night she takes me back to the table (the others were still dancing) and says that the others don't have good jobs or much money and because we all were eating and drinking well she felt bad asking them to share the bill � so asked if I would pick up the whole tab??!!
I agreed, and told her to get back on the dance floor and enjoy herself � she did, and I stayed at the table and finished the bottle of wine. When she wasn't looking I just walked out, stopping at the bar on my way through to point her out to them and explained that I had to leave, but she would be picking up the tab at the end of the night, but could they also please send over to the table (and open) 2 bottles of champagne.
I've not seen her since, and decided to ignore her numerous calls and texts.
Even though my friends told me that this woman seemed like this, it was nice to see that you all agreed too. Also with all your help, I have been able to see that not all women out there are like this. Obviously I'm single again now (and do miss her a little), but will definitely be more careful when getting involved with people in the future.
So thank you to you all!!
Matt
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Brilliant!
I have to admit that my boyfriend likes to treat me and I actually feel BAD about letting him! And I tell him so! I agree with the whole splitting the bill thing and always have, although I have a well paid job and ex boyfriends have been known to take advantage of that. It is very easy to get walked over and manipulated so well done Matt for taking a stand. And especially in such an explosive way! I love your style!
I have to admit that my boyfriend likes to treat me and I actually feel BAD about letting him! And I tell him so! I agree with the whole splitting the bill thing and always have, although I have a well paid job and ex boyfriends have been known to take advantage of that. It is very easy to get walked over and manipulated so well done Matt for taking a stand. And especially in such an explosive way! I love your style!
Thanks for all you help and thoughts guys.
Love Sallabananas idea of enjoying others over the festive period �. only question I do have (and I know this might sound a little sad), but what's the best kind of places to meet people over here?
I've just spent 6yrs travelling the world and living in France (hence my handle name) �.. over there its all out-door cafes and easy laid back atmosphere to meet others � but you don't have the weather here for that. And it all seems a little imposing and new to me (I was in a relationship when I left England, so was never really looking).
Thanks
Love Sallabananas idea of enjoying others over the festive period �. only question I do have (and I know this might sound a little sad), but what's the best kind of places to meet people over here?
I've just spent 6yrs travelling the world and living in France (hence my handle name) �.. over there its all out-door cafes and easy laid back atmosphere to meet others � but you don't have the weather here for that. And it all seems a little imposing and new to me (I was in a relationship when I left England, so was never really looking).
Thanks
I just wanted to say that I can't believe the audacity of her friends to take advantage like that (or so they thought!)
Well done Matt! I'm afraid that I can't help you out with where to meet people now as my OH and I are very boring, and stay in most of the time, but I'm sure that lots of members on AB can help you out!!
Well done Matt! I'm afraid that I can't help you out with where to meet people now as my OH and I are very boring, and stay in most of the time, but I'm sure that lots of members on AB can help you out!!
oh im so glad you saw the real her and took everyones advice!! bravo for walking, its a shame that its normally men who get the rough end of the stick with relationships ie i they are always made to be the worst when there really are some b**ches out there and thats coming from a woman!! did you ever think of going speed dating or anything?? i know you might think it would be horendous but it apparently can be fun and laid back, if i had the nerve and were single i would do it in a flash, you can find out alot about a person in a few short minutes!
The best way of meeting someone is going to something which is YOUR scene; no point in going to night clubs or pubs if you don't like them. Look out for groups who get together on say historical projects, or maybe in your circumstance a french conversation group, french musical group or whatever... There are quite a lot of french people in UK who meet up with the locals.
You did right to get shot of her but to do it in such style...pure class!
You sound like a nice guy and you deserve so much better than a gold digging biatch who's not even subtle about it.
Forget pubs, clubs and speed dating...set yourself up a hotmail address, post it on here with a pic of yourself in your uniform and your inbox will be full to bursting, lol.
You sound like a nice guy and you deserve so much better than a gold digging biatch who's not even subtle about it.
Forget pubs, clubs and speed dating...set yourself up a hotmail address, post it on here with a pic of yourself in your uniform and your inbox will be full to bursting, lol.
Didn't read your first thread but I get the drift. Well done. We all like to spoil our girlfriends/partners/wives from time to time but when a freeloader latches on it can be heartbreaking. You did the right thing - just wish I could have seen it.
I am fairly new to AB but log on every day. It's great.
I am fairly new to AB but log on every day. It's great.
I have to say, I've thought about this and I don't blame her friends. I rather suspect she has "bigged" st-tropez up as her new and well heeled boyfriend. SHE has then invited out HER friends "on us" (and of course, they are blissfully unaware that St Tropez knows nothing about her little plan). Thus she asks him to pick up the tab (because they are not in very good jobs) and he agrees.
The plan was going really really well up to that point........
The plan was going really really well up to that point........
thats brilliant, i was in a similar position a few years back, gf who sponged of me and then her friends joined in and i was too soft to begin with, but once it was allover i then realised she had got my bank details somehow and had spent �4000 (out of my bank account) on the internet in a weekend and then disappeared.
