christmas time

[vicks01]

what do people do at christmas without family or kids, its my first time this year and l'm dreading it...x

[weeal]

ehm, not a lot, I will probably be right here on Answerbank on xmas day, off to mums (100 miles away) on Boxing Day, its not the same without kids around is it
our family have all been split since dad died 4yrs ago

[vicks01]

no its not shug, but like l said its my first time this year, and l'm not looking forward to it, but hope you have a good day with your mum on Boxin day, thanks for the reply...x

[weeal]

sorry I meant to say I hope you do have a lovely time, Im just not feeling very christmassy myself

[Bathsheba]

Aaw, little un- i thought you were feeling Xmassy!! Lovely tree, btw.
Hi vicks- i don't much care for Xmas now there's no kids around x

[Annna]

A local group may be organising a 'feed the homeless' they always are looking for help and it can be quite fun. Especially if you have a useful talent like cooking or entertaining. Hope you find something. A.. X

[Velvetee]

There are certain travel companies that provide holidays and events, specifically for single people. Perhaps you could look into going away at Christmas, where you would meet others in a similar situation and where everything would be laid on for you.

[weeal]

Hi Bath, I did for a few days there, must have been the music on the telly lol, thats why I put my tree up so early

Annna, thats such a good idea Im going to see who's looking for volunteers in my area

[vicks01]

thanks for all your suggestions, l will have a good think about the goin away one tho, thanks again...x

[yummymum]

im all over the place, the day is just one big rush, i look forward to boxing day when i can relax

[jen78]

Volunteering is a great thing to do at Christmas.

I used to go to a respite and holiday centre for the severely disabled for a week over Christmas (and at other times). Used to be called Winged Fellowship but now called Vitalise I think.

It was hard work but I had some fantastic Christmasses there and I always though the best christmas you can have is the one you give someone else.

Guests used to put their name in if they would be alone at Christmas or in a home or similar and then they would draw names out of a hat for them to come free.

As many of the volunteers also wanted to be somewhere else for Christmas everyone it was kinda a lets make it great for everyone kinda thing.

I am still in contact with quite a few people from back then and have some fab photos and memories I'll always treasure :)

[terambulan]

They join up with other families. My unwed son & daughter will, hopefully, bring their flat-mates to share my table of Xmas foodies. They do the mulled wine/clearing/washing/cleaning before leaving after 2day festives.

[angiebaby57]

My friend is in the same situation and last year she booked herself into a nice hotel in London and went to work as a volunteer in a homeless shelter...she has since said that it made her feel fantastic and she felt like she made a real difference to other people in less fortunate circumstances....she is doing it again this year.
When I was 19 I was alone on Christmas day in Edinburgh and was dreading it. In the end I stopped feeling sorry for myself, bought a nice bottle of wine and some really lovely food and just lounged around all day watching films on TV - it was actually okay you know ! Concentrate on the positives and try to make the most of it. Lots of love. xxx

[steadyjack]

I've asked a question similar to this a few minutes ago. It's my 1st Christmas without my wife, and my kids are grown up so I don't want to stop them having fun. Course they'd rather stay with their old dad but it's not fair on them. I've been asked out for drinks by an online friend's brother. but I don't know him and I'm too depressed to make an effort to make new friends.