No lofty, not for the friend, but for her husband whos is 80yrs old. We invited him for Xmas dinner as he would be alone, but since then she has gone down hill and I don't think that she will make it to Xmas. As you may have guessed from my many answers on this site, I am not the sort of guy who can give emotional support. I Told my wife on my return from the hospital that if she was in the same situation O would ask them to turn off the ventilator and the dialysis.
Thanks anyway lofty.