Emotional Vampire

[banned-dot]

My son has finished with his GF of 12 months cos he says she is an emotional vampire, he explained what he meant by that, saying she drained him emotionally because everything was about her. I was quite impressed with his reasoning and actually understood what he meant. At least now he doesnlt have to deal with her lazyness, whining, sulking and grumpiness

[stewey]

So, dot, if he moves back in with you does it really solve anything for him:)?

[banned-dot]

lol he is already here, she lived here with him, so i kinda get what she is like myself lol

[China Doll]

Either brave or suicidal Stewey!

Well I'm sure there's two sides, there always is with these things but hopefully onwards and upwards and all that sort of thing.

[banned-dot]

I think alot of it was that she wanted to bombard him with conversation when he got in after a 12 hour day, he worked 6 days a week up til Christmas Eve and has had a week at home and she got used to the idea of him being around, but as soon as he went back to work she started to get clingy again. I wouldn;t mind but she did sod all around the house and just played on the PS3 all day : (

[China Doll]

I'm suprised you let her stay without earning her keep Dotty, that was good of you. Not sure my mother dearest would do the same.

He's still quite young your son isn't he? Plenty of time for all that romance malarky before he either gets old and cynical like me or all hitched up and 2.4'ed up.

[jno]

perhaps she was just bored and wanted someone to talk to (no offence, Dot, I mean someone her own age). As a non-worker myself I sort of know the feeling of wanting a chat when someone else comes home. On the other hand if all she wanted to talk about was herself then perhaps she needed to get out and do things

[BigDave44]

Looks like you've brought up a sensible lad Dot - unlike that Dot.Hawkes that use to be on here !!

Sorry, couldn't resist that Dot, but I did mean the first bit.

[China Doll]

Jno! How are you m'dear? I finally have internet acces at home so I'm back in the cyber black hole again!

Sorry Dotty, just wanted to say hello.

[jno]

oh welcome back, China, can't you get onto it at work when nobody's looking? Tragic! (except from the point of view of taxpayers like me of course). Virgin recently upgraded my access which of course means it's now slower and creakier, but it's best this time of night. As am I.

[China Doll]

Not with my work alas... it's manic at the moment. The great british public in winter and all that. I took annual leave at christmas and today was my first day back I'm torn with feeling bored the last few days and going back today and remembering why I needed a break!

[jno]

ah yes, my flu jab is still working but jno jnr acquired tonsillitis to go with his non-stop stream of colds (he is thinking of having his tonsils out as a desperate measure).

Sorry, Dot, I will devote the rest of the night to trying to think of some way I can bring this conversation round to your original Q.

[Ice.Maiden]

But never openly criticise your children's choice of partners, otherwise they'll think that YOU think they're not mature enough to make their own decisions.

[jno]

ah, but we apologised, tonyted, so that makes it good manners.

Anything is legal as long as you say 'sorry'.

[jno]

definitely. As long as you offer 'closure' to the victim.