free gifts on front on magazines...imprtant question...

[joko]

can anyone tell me if any of the magazines out at the moment or the past few weeks have given away a free scarf or pashmina type thing...?

odd question i know but its important...

many thanks

[naflharrison]

im sure there was one maybe in the xmas week but not sure which one, definately one of the dearer ones tho.

[tamirra]

Why, did your boyfriend get you a scarf for xmas and said he bought it, but you think it was a free gift from a mag, lol. How funny would that be!

[joko]

yeh, it wasnt an xmas pressy, he just said he brought it back from his new year holiday for me from a market.

no need to get me a pressy at all so its nice...but im having troubles with him, an if he actually went out an bought me a pressy it would mean so much more in the circumstances than if he just got it off one of his mums or aunties mags for free...
its the lying - if hed just said 'oh i thought you might like this' , id be made up that hed thought about me...but he made a big thing about buyin me something...

id obviously like to be proved wrong!

any idea how i can find out what mags gave away what?

[LindyLouLou]

oh joko, you are suspicious...lol

seriously tho, i buy (far too many) glossies and havent seen much in the way of free gifts on mags for the last few months or so.

most mags have on-line versions, so you could scout around a few sites, but maybe just take it at face value and say thanks....

[joko]

aye lindy, i am indeed...its just that he ignored my birthday...which was a week before xmas... so fo rhim to just buy me a gift at random just seems odd

unless he has just realised it was a bit off to ignore my b'day and is tryin to make up for it a bit, i dont know...
i have also been havin loads of other probs with him...

so it actually is important because it could mean things are lookin up for us and goin to get better - if hes actually decided to go out, while on holiday and get me a gift for no particular reason then it may mean hes realised hes been bahavin badly and is goin to change ... but if its just because his auntie didnt want it, an it was just there - then the "gesture" is entirely a different one... tho still kind of thoughtful an nice of him to think of me.

i am hopin he has just realised that i was a bit upset about the birthday thing, an this is his way of tryin to make up for it, with out actually admittin he was wrong...

id just like to know how to should look at it...if you get me...

it has nothin to do with the gift or the cost or where it came from really - its the gesture behind it

i have checked a few online sites...but none mention the freebies...

i woudl not go mad at him for it - i can understand why hed pretend he bought it specially...just sounds nicer than 'i got this free and thought you might want it'... but i would just prefer the truth...because its still a nice gesture even if it is a freebie...shows that he has considered me

its also my fave colour - purple...which is lucky - an does make me think he may have chosen it... had it been some other colour like pink - which i hate- id have been more sus, cos he knows i hate pink

[jno]

Eve had one

http://www.pressgazette.co.uk/story.asp?storyC ode=22220§ioncode=1

[jno]

oh forget, that, I just saw the actual date on the story as opposed to the date on the page. I think Eve closed last year anyway

[pinktwink]

joko how long are yee together? perhaps it may help to tell him how you feel as opposed to worrying so much about the gift. /the real issue seems to be your relationship

[joko]

well thats exactly it pink - the gift itself is irrelvant...its the meaning behind it, as i said.

its what it signifies...

if everything was fine and dandy, i wouldnt give a toss where the gift came from

[pinktwink]

can you talk to him about your feelings about the relationship?

[Ice.Maiden]

Oh dear....well Maxim were giving free scarves away - but that's a "girly mag", so I hope it didn't come from there!!
http://www.wbisuperstore.com/mamaukde20fr.html
Think that was in 2007 though, and haven't heard of any other mags doing this.

[joko]

yeh he knows...its a long complicated story...but i just wondered if this was because hes had time to think things through and was going to start makin more of an effort...or just a chance he took to earn brownie points with no actual thought or effort involved...

just didnt want to read into too much...if its not what i think

[jno]

there are a whole range of possibilities here, from 'he went to Nepal specially to shear a goat and knit it himself' to 'he found it in a gutter and thought of you'. Okay, those are extremes, but the medium-range possibillities aren't much more help.

He went looking for a gift, saw a mag, bought it and gave you the scarf?

He wasn't looking for a gift but saw a mag, bought it and gave you the scarf?

He didn't even buy the mag, someone gave it to him or just gave him the scarf?

Or there wasn't a mag at all but he went looking for a scarf, found it and bought it/ he saw a scarf quite by chance and bought it/someone gave it to him and he gave it you???

It's going to be almost impossible to find out what really happened - the simplest thing would be to ask him, but it seems you aren't quite ready to believe what he says.

So I think you may be beating yourself up over nothing, because this is a question you'll never get an answer to. One thing I would hang on to, though, is this: wherever he got it, whatever he paid for it (or not), he did think of you and he did give it to you. Maybe you should be giving him credit for that?

If you can't do that (and I'm not saying it's your fault) then it looks like your relationship may be failing because of basic lack of trust. If you find yourself unable to believe what he says, should you be sticking with him?

[joko]

well yes jno, at the moment i dont really trust him...and i have many reasons for that -
but im hoping if im proved to be paranoid enough times i will start to regain the trust....
its a long complicated story - dont know if you have seen the other questions ive asked regardin him....

as i have said tho, i do appreciate the fact that he thought of me and gave me a gift...there was no occasion so it was not expected... which is why i am not goin to tell him off for it or anything if it turns out to be from a mag

in terms of what happened...all those things are possible but hed just spent 4 days with a load of auties and uncles...so i expect it was bought by one of them...but unwanted...

as they say "its the thought that counts" - an i guess i just what to know excatly how much thought went into this...