Virginity

[Sasha-2008]

This sounds really weird but it is something that I have always wanted to know the answer to because everyone I have asked say they are not sure.

If its your first time sleeping with someone & you have anal sex only are you still a virgin?? Or does that still count as losing your virginity. ??

Please help, no stupid answers please.

Thanks

[andy-hughes]

It's something of a grey area really.

Being absolutely literal, for a woman to loose her virginity, she needs to have intercourse, whereupon her hymen is ruptured by the penis.

That said, some people regard any sexual contact beyond simple foreplay as 'loosing virginity'.

I would say, for the sake of argument, that a woman who has experienced anal intercourse, but still has her hymen intact because she has not experienced full penetrative intercourse, is a virgin.

I hope that helps.

[sqad617]

Woww Sasha.....what sort of woman has anal intercourse FIRST?

[123everton]

A grey area?
Blimey Andy, you need to change your diet! LOL

[Sasha-2008]

I don't know who would but its something that has crossed my mind and is now bugging me because there is not really an answer to it.

[Ethel]

Just to correct Andy, a woman's hymen can be ruptured in many ways, and she is still a virgin.

A virgin is somebody who has never had sexual intercourse - anal sex is a form of intercourse but it is a moot point.

She certainly can't be considered chaste after the experience.

[Velvetee]

Well maybe for religious or moral reasons she needs to be virgo intacto on her wedding night.

Maybe the two are separate issues, you can be a regular virgin as well as an anal virgin. So Sasha maybe a virgin in the traditional sense, but she sure isn't an anal one.

[Sasha-2008]

So what we are saying here is that "yes" anal sex can be considered as losing your virginity??

[Velvetee]

Does that also mean then Ethel, if she has had Oral sex, she's no longer a virgin either, as that is also a form of sex?

[sqad617]

1 a: an unmarried woman devoted to religion bcapitalized : virgo2 a: an absolutely chaste young woman b: an unmarried girl or woman3capitalized : virgin mary4 a: a person who has not had sexual intercourse b: a person who is inexperienced in a usually specified sphere of activity 5: a female animal that has never copulated

I agree with Ethel.......the hymen has little or nothing to do with virginity.

Oral sex, anal sex, all constitute loss of virginity...in my opinion based upon the above definition.

[andy-hughes]

Ethel - I am aware that rupture of the hymen occurs for reasons other than intercourse, I was simply taking the literal stance for the pruposes of answering the qwuestion.

The responses that followed mine underline the fact that culturally, the issue is not a matter of a hard-and-fast rule, but open to interpertation depending on cultural attitudes.

[Ethel]

Velvetee - you will see I said it is a moot point, I never said a woman who has had anal sex but not vaginal sex is not a virgin.

I said she is not chaste and a woman who has oral sex is not chaste either.

chaste adj 1 sexually virtuous or pure; refraining from sexual relations either outside marriage or altogether. 2 said of behaviour, etc: modest; decent.

[Lakitu]

Andy's gone all Italian-American on us......qwuestion, would like a bwuiscuit?? hehe ;o)

[Sasha-2008]

So whats the majority say??

Anal sex first, virgin or no virgin????

[sqad617]

For me?.....NO virgin

[Lakitu]

For me...No virgin too. I wouldn't consider myself to be a virgin if I don't have anal sex, so same goes for the other way around IMO.

[andy-hughes]

Lakitu - bada bing, bada bang, hey don't you go direspectin' your elders ya little punk!!!!

[carrust]

It took me some time to get a back-stage pass ;-))))

[Paul22118]

A legal eagle aquaintance of mine says in a certain parlance, as an answer to the question:-

"Any hole's a goal".

So yes.