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How do you make a guy fall for u when he is still wounded from his previous relationship?
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This guy i like is unsure of whether or not he wants to be in anotherrelationship because of things repeating what happned with his ex 2 years ago. she cheated on him and falsly accused him of rape, dropping the charges the next day.
Instead of me wasting time being friends and hoping it will develop do you think he will ever get over this past relationship and move on.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.If you really care about him...you will give him lots of time.Everyone 'gets over' hurt differently,and it can't be rushed. It is up to you whether or not you want to invest the time or not. Are you in a rush?..if not-then just enjoy what you do have. Friendship is not to be sneezed at..it is what all good relationships should be based on. Then you know that person is reliable ,and there for you.
I'm in the same situation except it's a marriage break-up that happened to him. Some people-as he says-just shut down inside and become cold,it's the only way to survive. Just try not to push for something he's not ready for-I'm learning this. eventually you may need to move on but I hope you find happiness.
I was in a relationship like that once - I really felt second best for ages with my fella's ex ringing him for advice (her life was going pear-shaped after the split) and texting and stuff. He never lied about the contact or anything like that but I kept my distance, emotionally, because I could see that it was unfinished business in his mind. They weren't angling to get back together but he was still bitter and wanting answers as to why she had finished it.
We got on well so we maintained the relationship we had - no real commitment on anyone's part, as much as I wanted it to change. It came to a head one day when I noticed him reading a text and I saw "meet you" in it - it was from her. I just asked him to be honest with himself about what he wanted and whether I was part of that equation - then I left.
I think because we had been together several months at that point he suddenly realised what he had to lose - a fresh start. Or he could spend the rest of his life waiting for someone who couldn't make her own mind up.
Is he worth the wait? That's what someone asked me.
We got on well so we maintained the relationship we had - no real commitment on anyone's part, as much as I wanted it to change. It came to a head one day when I noticed him reading a text and I saw "meet you" in it - it was from her. I just asked him to be honest with himself about what he wanted and whether I was part of that equation - then I left.
I think because we had been together several months at that point he suddenly realised what he had to lose - a fresh start. Or he could spend the rest of his life waiting for someone who couldn't make her own mind up.
Is he worth the wait? That's what someone asked me.
I was in a similar relationship (less the rape thing) with a guy whose ex cheated on him and stuff. I don't really think he was over it when we met and there was still a lot of contact betwen them with him maintaining he was there for her as a friend.
After about four months I just told him that I'd been hurt in relationships before but had put it behind me. I said there obviously wasn't any place for me in his life whilst he still had feelings. And I left.
He spent days trying to contact me - a case of not realising what he had until it was gone - and even to the end we never heard from her or about her again. He severed all ties.
After about four months I just told him that I'd been hurt in relationships before but had put it behind me. I said there obviously wasn't any place for me in his life whilst he still had feelings. And I left.
He spent days trying to contact me - a case of not realising what he had until it was gone - and even to the end we never heard from her or about her again. He severed all ties.
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