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No best answer has yet been selected by dryvanda. Once a best answer has been selected, it will be shown here.
For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I have an enormous amount of sympathy for you and wish you the best of luck in a hideously difficult situation. It sounds as though you have already taken positive steps by ending the relationship and taking out a non-molestation order.
As for collecting his belongings - well. I guess 1, you don't want to speak to him, 2, you don't want to be alone with him / near him at all and 3, you don't trust him.
As such I would suggest that you need 1, a third party who is neutral - such as a friend of both of you or independent such as a women's aid worker to phone him and make the arrangements for him collecting his belongings.
2, you need someone you trust and who can protect you to be in the house when he comes to collect them - unless you can arrange to have a third party collect them on his behalf. This could be a trusted friend / family member of someone suggested by an organisation such as women's aid. If you have a very definite time and place and a real fear of violence then the police might agree to have an officer there.
3, You want to make this as short as possible. Why not pack up his belongings so they just need loading. You want to minimise any time that he might be there and avoid the possibility of any dispute over items / him taking your things.
The fact is these are his possessions so selling them or taking them to the charity shop would be a bad choice. You don't want to find him with an excuse to cast himself as the victim...
Take care - good luck
dryvanda - Firstly, well done on making the decision to move on with your life & no longer be subjected to the physical abuse you have endured over the years.
Personally, I wouldn't take your husband's belongings to a charity shop, as this could lead to yet another confrontation if he does turn up to collect them.
Would it not be possible to box them up & drop them off at one of his relatives, or friends houses (that's if he has any left). The longer you have to look at them, the harder it will be for you - so the sooner the better.
I hope you can stay strong & continue with your intentions to rid this person from your life. I also wish you good luck & every happiness in the future. -x-