Hi Ron.
OK, I admit to being confused. If I've been reading your posts correctly, you're reading your mail through the Windows Live Mail client, rather than going via the web. The problem seems to be with that client, rather than with any particular email service. The easiest solution might be to switch to a combination of an alternative email client (e.g. Outlook or Thunderbird).
If you've got Outlook you can configure it to work with a Windows Live Hotmail account:
http://office.microsoft.com/en-us/outlook/HA10 2218231033.aspx
You can also use Outlook with GMail. Instructions for Outlook 2003 are here:
http://mail.google.com/support/bin/answer.py?h l=en&answer=13278
For Outlook 2007, see here:
http://mail.google.com/support/bin/answer.py?h l=en&answer=77689
If you've not got Outlook, try Thunderbird:
http://www.mozilla-europe.org/en/products/thun derbird/
Here are the instructions for using Thunderbird with Hotmail & GMail accounts:
http://webmail.mozdev.org/setup.html
Chris