Am I too late for divorce and remarriage??

[musicbuff08]

I am planning to take a divorce at 38 and search for a partner.I plan to have 2 kids .Am I too old for this?
Do u think its wise for me to go for a divorce so late in life and try for 2nd marriage. I am worried that even if I do get married by 39 and have two kids by 41 I will be too old by the time they are in college and worried I may be too old to get them married or may not even be alive to settle them down in marriage.

[sara3]

no, you're not too old.. so long as you've not gone through the menopause.

best of luck.

[nix-j-c]

my dad was 45 when he had me and he has three other children from one other marriage who are all old enough to be my parents if my family can work out yours can

[nix-j-c]

does that make youfeel better?

[kira000]

My mates dad had him (my mate) aged 56!! And my Aunt had my cousin aged 41, so for both sexes, you still have time.

The important thing is for you to be happy. If you arent happy in your marriage now, then you need to address that as soon as possible, rather than resentfully watching your life slip past, and then wake up one day and think to yourself you wish you had done something about it.

Good Luck.

[Velvetee]

Well if you are in an unhappy marriage and there is no chance of saving it, then it's probably best to end the relationship.

You don't say what sex you are, but regardless, I don't think being in 40's means ou are too old for children. People these days tend to be younger and fitter than they were 30-40 years ago, so providing you try to keep fit and healthy, then there is no reason why you can't be a productive and active parent.

[pastafreak]

Had my daughter when I was 38.....she is now 23....and it was my 2nd marriage. Yes-do it!
We are not as 'old' as our parents were at the same age.
never put up with a relationship that makes you so miserable......life is too short,and you are still young.

[LoftyLottie2]

Goodness - too old? You are still quite young. Lots of people get married for the first time and have kids at your age.

However, you can't plan these things. Don't go searching for a partner to provide you with two kids. Your isoul mate might not want kids. It takes two. Go for a separation/divorce if you are not happy, but give yourself time, enjoy yourself being single. Hopefully the right person will come along, but he may not.

[LoftyLottie2]

'soul mate'

[sqad617]

Morning lottie

"However, you can't plan these things. Don't go searching for a partner to provide you with two kids. Your isoul mate might not want kids. It takes two. Go for a separation/divorce if you are not happy, but give yourself time, enjoy yourself being single. Hopefully the right person will come along, but he may not."

How prophetic...I think you are wonderful.

[mydogsandme]

good morning musicbuff-you're certainly not too old to seperate or there's no hope for me! I'm going through a seperation and I'm 49 next month-going to be living alone for the first time in my life and after 26 years of marriage!I know your clock is ticking but I'd agree with a poster here not to go looking for a partner with a vengeance-you'll either frighten them away or end up in a bad relationship with two children. Try to enjoy yourself as I'm going to try-I know it will be hard-and let us know how things go. x

[LoftyLottie2]

LOL Squaddy!! Good morning.

[craft1948]

You're never too old for divorce - I used to be married but I got better.

[brenda]

This is all a bit too cut and dried for me, e.g go for a divorce, marry again , have children , may I ask why ?????

Where is the problem , the love, the regrets , the anguish and the soul searching in all of this?????

Feel there is a lack of true emotion in this question --a bit like going to the supermarket for a lettuce and a box of teabags.!!!!!
Am I missing somethig here ????

[obNOXious]

Funny you should say that Brenda I thought exactly the same thing.
Okay fine first you decide you want a divorce and get that sorted out because you are so diabolically unhappy... fair enough... and maybe ideally you'd like another partner and some kids... again fair enough... but it does all seem a bit sterile as though you have a strict criteria that you want to work to instead of allowing life to wash over you and see where it takes you and so on.
If I were you I'd go for the divorce if you're that unhappy and then see what happens. The best laid plans of mice and men and all that ... you know?