discpline

[parkerwayne]

how to discpline a child of two any ideas dont want to smack

[Chillum]

The "naughty step" worked well for us. When your child needs to be disciplined - put him or her in a place away from the rest of the family, excluding them from the goings on (only for a short time). In our case that was the bottom step, where she could still see us, but wasn't allowed to come in. Very soon, just the threat of being sent to the naughty step was enough to settle her down. If you Google "The Naughty Step Method" you'll find quite a few articles.

[miss_chase]

Also, give lots of 'ways out' of bad behaviour and distractions (eg if she is screaming in the supermarket, ignore the behaviour but grab her attention by saying in a high energy voice 'oooh look at all the different colours! How many colours can you see? I can see red and yellow...' etc) This works amazingly well - often little kids, and as they get older too, get stuck in a cycle of bad behaviour and want to stop but don't know how.

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[Gwen1149]

I have been a Registered Childminder for almost 25 years and have brought up 3 of my own and I agree with Chillum and miss_chase. Distraction works well with younger children as they don't understand the concept of the 'naughty step' but as they get older I have always found that the 'step' or a 'naughty chair' or 'time out' works well. Whatever you decide, just try to be consistant because I find that children need to know the boundarys and are better for knowing 'what is acceptable' and 'what is not acceptable'

[nrmatth]

I don't know about not being old enough.my 15 month old learned how to toddle off to his room real quick. and he knows that he stays there until he stops throwing a fit. this worked well for our 3 year old daughter too(she learned when she was just over 1 year also). It takes about three times for them torealize that they are supposed to go to their room when you tell them too, but at the beginning we just said go to your room, and put them in the middle of it and shut the door until they calmed down. my son (15 mo) learned real quick that he gets out when he's quiet and my stubborn daughter will cause a huff all the way down the hall, but when they come out they get a talking to about what they did and they say their sorry and lots of hugs and kisses afterward. My son is a year and a half now and just the threat of going to his room will usually calm him down real quick.

[ursula62]

I don't think sending them to their room works - the bedroom should be a place of calm, where they sleep. It shouldn't become associated with  punishments. The naughty step method is better.

My sister used to make her son stand in the hall with his back to the open doorway so he couldn't watch the TV from there.

[Hellion]

Naughty Step really does work, if a big tantrum shut them in a room where they are safe, but I agree not bedroom - should be a sanctuary, nor bathroom or cupboard, a dining room  or hall is good. 1 minute for each year of age so 4 year old 4 minutes. Sticker charts are brilliant too - most children will do anything for a sticker up to the age of 7 or 8- Give a sticker or a smiley face for good behaviour or a 'sad face' for bad behaviour. Find out from local play group or school what methods of dicipline they use - I use the same methods as son's school and the consistency of home/school is very effective, although I think my son thought I was omnipresent!

[nrmatth]

I would like to add that even though my kids are sent to their rooms , it is a safe place for them to relax and calm down and they are not surrounded by a sterile or unfamiliar room. Plus having their toys with them gives them a distraction when they get there. The step method sounds like a time-out to me and I use those for more serious offenses or when their isn't a bedroom. Plus I feel like a warden standing over them making sure they don't get out. I'd rather put them in their room and get a break to calm down and let them calm down without seeing me or looking for attention or anything.

[flashpig]

Is everyone just answering this question based on those infuriatingly annoying: "I can't look after my kid, I need help from tv!" television programs that have recently invaded our screens? How about if you don't like the idea of smacking the little swine, holding their hand against a radiator, one minute for every year of their life.

[rinkytink]

 

Hmmm.....interesting theory Flashpig....but hey isn't that child abuse ?

Are you trapped in some sort of Victorian disipline time-warp ?

[smouse]

OK my son is 30 so I certainly didnt get this from a TV programme. Whatever the punishment you have to carry it through. My friend used to tell her son he would go in and not come out again that day. Of course it never happened. I used to make my son sit quietly on the settee and set the timer for 2 minutes. He remembers it to this day!