oh my gosh......

[singingfish]

I'm having an affair with a married man.....does it ever work out or am I COMPLETELY wasting my time? Helpful answers welcome x

[stokemaveric]

........you know he is married leave well alone.......it will end in tears....and not all yours either....does he have kids?...think of the consequences....its not a bit of fun you know in fact you ought to be ashamed of yourself...............

[stokemaveric]

so after reading your earlier post you sound a well educated nice person?is that what you think of yourself?im sure this ass**les wife and kids wouldnt think that of you when your antics blow their world apart......i can think of 1 word id call you.....****......

[Drisgirl]

Leave well alone as only your fingers will get burnt.

If he has issues with his wife then step back -give them space to deal with it -respect her and then if they cant make it work maybe you can get together.I doubt it though -you are simply his comfort blanket and I wouldnt touch a man with those values with a barge pole.

Dont disrespect this woman please -it could be you the next time.

[legendis.god]

Slag is the word that springs to mind



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[Nannyjillx2]

If you started the affair and fell in love with him before you knew he was married - fair enough but now you know you should walk away.

When I was married my ex had an affair while I was heavily pregnant when I found out I took all his dirty washing to her and said you want him fine but you can have all the nitty gritty too. She was pretty shocked by the look on her face and started to stay you're pregnant he told me you weren't sleeping together.

After a month or 2 he came back - I was able to forgive him but my elder children was upset for years - unfortunantly 1 of their friends had seen him out with the girl and told my daughter.

[Drisgirl]

Leg thats harsh -he is the one who is cheating -she needs help to get her mind set right and its tough when you are being fed sh!t.

Now if you had said ******* i would have agreed.

[legendis.god]

Im very sure of my opinion dris


slag is as slag does.



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lol i cant change now can i ? : 0)

[Drisgirl]

Nut :)

[cazzz1975]

you are wasting your time singingfish, the fact that he is having his cake and eating it means he never has to leave his wife (im sure he has told you she is cold and unemotional ) and he can keep you happily stringing along all the time being fed lines promising that you are his soulmate, you are the one ect

I would imagine the excuse for not leaving is the kids. so whilst he can play dutiful husband and great dad, you will only ever be some no strings sex

[fofospearjig]

Some very black and white views here. Every situation is different. I most definitely do NOT believe that just because they've cheated to be with you that it automatically means they will cheat on you as well. Rubbish. I know two very happy couples who both left their partners to be with each other. Both have been together, and happy for the past 20 odd years.This is not a case of one size fits all.

You can't help who you fall in love with and even when you know that is the wrong person to be falling in love with, it doesn't mean you can stop it happening. Love is a very powerful emotion.

To call you a slag is harsh and cruel and way off the mark. This does NOT make you a slag.

Just be prepared to face a lot of hurt when he doesnt leave though, if he doesnt leave. Its a lonely life being a mistress. Time will tell but my advice would be to set yourself a time limit on how long you are prepared to wait for him. Gradually as time goes on, you will probably start to feel differently towards him anyway when he makes no effort to be with you .

[singingfish]

Well thank goodness for you fofo, the one response which is the most helpful and delivered with a little feeling.
I have slept with him twice in 6 months and by no means set out looking to break up a family by falling in love with a married man. I have told him that nothing more will happen between us while he's still going home to his wife every night. NOT because I'm hoping that will make him leave her but because he obviously needs to sort things out without me in the picture and I am well aware that this is immoral and I feel horrendous playing a part in treating this woman so appallingly. Neither me or him are flippant about her feelings and if he decided to stay with her and try make it work then I would utterly respect that despite my own feelings.
But people fall in love, believe me it was the last thing I wanted full stop, let alone with someone elses husband.
At the same time, I can't help how I feel. I'm only human and like you say, you can't help who you fall for.
I question myself about this day in, day out and there's a part of me who doesn't like that I'm this person right now but one thing I have no doubts about is whether this makes me a slag. It does not. I am not.
Legend, get a life. And for future reference, just because you think something doesn't mean you have to put it out there and if calling me a slag is the most intelligent response your limited brain could muster, you should have saved your stupid breath.