Husband just left me!!

[CJ242]

He got laid off today, had a few drinks and decided I had been selfish, unsupportive and generally a bad wife. This is despite the fact that he hasn't made it home before 9.30 for the last month, his dinner has always been waiting for him and his shirts always washed.
I tried to get him to talk about it but was treated to an onslaught of personal (and very hurtful) comments I'm holding on to the angry feeling so I don't cry.

You don't need to reply, I just needed to tell someone!

[ruthann58]

sorry to here that CJ give him time to cool off and he will be home with his tail between his legs he was just looking for someone to vent his anger on and they say you always hurt the ones you love my husband has been made redundant and his mood swings are up and dow like a bl00dy yo yo you look like you might be in for a rough time but there are plenty of us to talk to when he has a strop just walk away go for a walk or something its not worth getting in to a row with him, until he gets his head round this he is going to be hell i know mine is but as you say i still love him good luck ruth

[CJ242]

Had a few drinks now Knobby so didn't even notice.
But thanks!!

[CJ242]

Decided to get myself good and drunk and deal with it all in the morning.
Extra stars if you can cheer me up!!!!!

[Drisgirl]

The pair of you will be fine -he has had a major blow and we all know we take it out on our nearest and dearest.

Support him -like someone said not in a clingy way -but reassure him that you will get through it together.

Remember your vows - its not always a bed of roses.

I can second guess he will be fine tomorrow -be united -it will work -I can assure you.

I was gonna say Good Luck but I dont think you need it -you will get through it -its happening everywhere -it sucks but you must support each other -I dont know if you work -if you do then fine if you dont then you may have to pick up a few wee jobs like cleaning -cash in hand jobs -be positivel

[Nannyjillx2]

Sorry to read your news.

Sure it was a huge shock even if he had an inkling it was going to happen it's still a shock and hurtful, particularly if he's been working such long hours. You're a star to have put up with that and I'm sure you'll get through.

Men kinda expect,as everyone has said, to be the protector and the provider he probably does feels he's let you down.Sure he'll be back .

If you don't express you're inner feelings to those closest to you then who are you going to talk to?

Just the drink talking. Carry on and have a few more drinks . In the morning your two hangovers can talk to each other.

[tamborine]

Forget dinners and shirts - get yourself an income to help with home costs. Let him run the the home!

[Joy11]

I really feel for you CJ and agree with all of the posts made to you, you sound a nice person who loves her husband and fighting back would likely exassipate an already fragile situation, I'm afraid you are his "battering ram" not literally but hypothetically speaking, the worst thing is, when his common sense returns, it will be hard for you to completley forget the harsh words used against you but unfortunatley you must in order to move on, you come on here if and when you need to CJ, there will always be someone to listen to you in your time of need, Good Luck