Why do guys get freaked out?

[Sasha-2008]

I thought that me and my b-friend were happy and he was always talking about furture events etc. But now he's the one who has got all freaked out saying that he doesn't know what he wants anymore. He says that I'm too full on when I only see him twice a week and that its getting too serious. how can this be when he was the one who was always doing the chasing at the start.

Is it the thrill of the chase game and now he's bored?


Can guys really get freaked out and get cold feet? I thought it was only women who did that?

[ZebraFinch]

I think he knows exactly what he is doing and it you who is misinterpreting his messgae. Could be that he is trying to tell you gently that it's all over? 'Making the heart grow fonder' bit about time apart sometimes can be a big mistake - he might find someone else or he might assume that you have decided to end the relationship.

[Sasha-2008]

Thanks Zebra.

Well I am meeting up with him tonight and will see what happens. I have suggested that we start again and tone it down and he seems ok with it but I'm still gona give him the chance to end it all.

[mydogsandme]

I know what you mean as I've been on the recieving end of this. Even if you only see him twice a week,think about how you act around him. I continually pull myself back and don't make assumptions about doing things together,the future or anything! Make sure you do things with other people and have your own life and make sure they know it! It's really hard not to text but men will just turn their phones off anyway if it gets too heavy-they just can't cope emotionally. I know it's really hard but as soon as you're cooler he'll come running.

[Sgt.Rock]

Serves your right for getting involved with a weirdo, no doubt he has someone else on the go when he's not seeing you!! Haven't you worked that out by now?

[no-knowledge]

well worth the wait ^

[Sasha-2008]

sgt.rock

clearly your the sort of person who can't just commit to one person. But not every1 is like that. If you can't give good advice they don't bloody bother.