How much???

[unhappychick]

My fella has moved in with me, I have a 3 bedroom house, I cook the meals and even cook him a lunch to take into work, he doesnt want for anything, he has been giving me �50 a week but says he will help with the bills as and when they come in, the thing is, some of it is on a key meter and the rest I pay by direct debit, I have found that I am worse off since he has moved in and was wondering if it is unreasonable of me to ask him for �100 a week as a contribution to everything?

[aaronseasear]

Very reasonable... when I lived with my parents I paid that much.. when i had my own place I paid 3 times that... dont ask how much now!!!.... but yes �100 is good value..

[The Builder]

............ I'll move in for �100 Unhappychick..................

any advance on �100..............?

[unhappychick]

Thank you so much for your answer...I was a bit worried and feel awkward about approaching the subject, but im gonna have to, Im finding I have nothing left at the end of the month!

[unhappychick]

LOL & The Builder

[Schutzengel]

Hi unhappychick. You really should have sorted this out before he moved in. No wonder you are worse off. He's on a very good thing at the moment. You certainly should get this sorted asap. Point out to him where else would he get a roof over his head, food, heating, lighting, and laundry all provided for �50 per week, and a vague offer of a contribution to household bills. If he rented a flat he would be looking at �450 to �500 per month, with all his living expenses on top of that. He really should be contributing �150 a week minimum, if the household bills are to be included. How long has this been going on. Don't be taken for a mug, no matter how nice he seems otherwise. You are not a charity, and should be looking out for yourself, and not supporting a grown man.

[ethandron]

absolutely and totally agree with shuztengel. you're not the one being unreasonable, your boyfriend is by not contributing a realistic amount each week. i would also ask him for any money he owes you for being out of pocket.
you need to sit down together and work out all the outgoings and then come to a proper arrangement.

[unhappychick]

Thanks for your answers! hes been living here for about 5 weeks, dont worry, I will be saying something tonight, and if he doesnt like it he knows where the door is!

[black bunny]

I'd go even further than everyone else and say I think assuming he is working he should pay half of all the household bills - half the mortgage/rent,half the fuel bills,half the grocery bill - after all you and he are a couple sharing your lives, he's not a lodger or a tenant, is he?

[Panic Button]

He's taking you for a mug.

I bet his Mum did everything for him at home.

[Velvetee]

I moved into my partner's house, is it wrong that I don't pay towards anything, except the TV Licence and Sky Satellite?

[Schutzengel]

No Velvetee - it's not wrong, you obviously have a nice partner who wants to look after you. Unhappychick's situation is quite different, she's being taken for a ride.

[craft1948]

When I lived at home with my mum I paid 25% of my salary for bed and board

[hailthechimp]

Unhappychick,the solution is simple,you just tell him that �50 will just get him 5 mins of tv,3 hot showers a week and half a microwave meal! If that fails just tell him that �50 is no way good enough and from now on sex is going to cost him �250 so you can make the difference and if you dont get it from him your going to "hit the streets " for it! Watch how quick he sorts it out!

[Scarlett]

I also think he should cook for you a few times a week. You sound more like his Mum than his other half.

[sqad617]

I agree with schutzengel and ethandron.

This weekend, sit down and tabulate ALL you outgoings, divide them by 2 then give him the list and ask for his share..50%.

Now, if you were married, a different arrangement between the two of you would be needed.

Please do not ask me what the difference is LOL