Worried about being alone?

[Sasha13]

Bit of a strange question this. Did any Ab'ers out there, before they met their husband or wife (or life partner etc etc), worry that they would end up alone? And when you did meet that special person, how did you know that they were "the one"?

[spudqueen]

I think everyone worries that they will end up alone, don't they? Unless of course they meet the right person very young in life.

How to define how you "know" that you've found the right person - that's a bit difficult to describe, though I once heard someone say that you know it's the right person not when you can imagine spending the rest of you life with them, it's when you CAN'T imagine the rest of your life WITHOUT them.

[Louis XIV]

I've gone through life and various relationships in the belief that although I reckoned I knew what love was, there was always a little something missing: something in me that always held on to that little bit inside for myself and I'd never let go of it, with the consequence that I always felt that little but unfulfilled.

The special person has recently come into my life and turned all my long-held strictures upside down, unlocked my heart and enabled me to give of myself fully for the first time in the four decades I've been on this earth. Although we've a long way to go before we can achieve all that we want out of this, I know that through all this she very definitely is the one, love and cherish her for it and she knows exactly how I feel, as she's told me the feeling is very much mutual.

It might sound corny to everyone else, but for us the whole thing is beyond comparison with all that's gone before. If we're not together for life, it'll all be in vain but we're completely and utterly committed to our future happiness. For me, that's the biggy as I never thought I'd ever feel this way and I'm thankful each and every day for her coming into my life.

[Litchick]

Oh, I did!  That day I decided to become resigned to the fact that I would be "that old lady with the cat" is the day I met my now-husband!  Funny isn't it?  I knew on our first date that he was the one....and I know this sounds like a story but he told everyone he knew that I was the one after our first date too!  I swear it's true! :)

As for how you know, you just know -- hate to say it, but you really do just know. 

[toecrusher]

i knew the first night we met, he was p----d, it was his birthday,we arranged to meet a few days later for lunch, i worked nights, and really had to drag myself out of bed after a busy night shift, virtually convinced that he would,nt show up, but he did and we have been together for 24 yrs in august,21 married, and i love him to bits. that first night it was classic mills and boon BUTTERFLIES! (thats why i got out of bed) You'll know when you meet someone i'm certain, good luck

[toecrusher]

should have added i was 25 and never had a serious relationship and was getting very worried that i would never meet anyone

[nicola_red]

I do worry about it sometimes.  I'm in a relationship but things haven't been great in recent times and I do occasionally think I might end up old and lonely.  I don't know how you know who 'the one' is - I'm not even sure it exists.  Sorry, I'm getting old and cynical!

[CiderMonkey]

i never worried that i would end up alone, but then i didn't really think about it as i was in my early twenties when i met 'the one'. i knew i loved him about a week after we met and accidentally told him when i was a bit tipsy. it's hard to say how i know he's the one. This is so different from anything i have ever felt. I think about him all the time, even after 4 years, want to spend every minute with him, we can make up easily after arguments and i can see him being a great dad. We can (and have) talked about anything and everything. it's all this and more. People say 'you just know' and i thought it was a load of tosh until i met him and it's true.. you just know!

[Bottom]

Well i was single for two years before I met "my dream come true" I was very lonely and moody it was awful, But in the thoose two yrs I learnt about myself and what type of man I wanted to be with. my mum always used to say you will never met anyone in a pub or club you need to go to a wedding, So that year I was going to a Client's from work wedding, That was when I met my boyfiend, something told me not to let this man go without getting a number or a date. Anyway my friend got his number because he took us home,she let him know that I liked him so we arrange to met the follow week, Our first date we met in a club, then second he took me to a really nice pub near the river, then he took me to Oxford for the day, we just hit it off, We both knew we was each others"the one". and that was nearly three years ago and we are still in love, thinking about getting married and starting a family.I just think what if I never went to that wedding? because we both nearly never went. i just could not live without him.