Mothers Day

[silka]

tomorrow.
I dread it every year as my daughter disappeared 1/1 /99 and I have heard nothing from her since.
I have no other family, and few friends. It affected me badly.
I go to work and carry on as normal but I am just putting on a face really.
All you people who have family be good to one another , I would love to have family around me.
Thank you for listening to me.

[sara3]

I'm sorry silka, that is so sad x

[craft1948]

silka my mum died in October 2006 and it's on mothers day that it really hits home......

[cab]

My heart goes out to you silka.
I wish I could give you a hug. xxxxx

[DEN53]

Not knowing where your daughter is must be agony - and it sounds like you are still grieving - I think if someone goes missing, it must be even worse than someone you love dying (and I am not being disrespectful, in saying this !).

I think Mother's Day as with any calendar anniversary i.e. christmas, easter, father's day etc etc - are just commercial hype - we can all be good, kind and helpful to our family any time of the year - I know people who buy a card, chocs or flowers for their Mum, but never see them for the rest of the year and never give them a helping hand.

Just view tomorrow as just another Sunday, silka, but I am sure wherever your daughter is , she will be thinking of you.

luv
Denise x

[carmalee]

maybe there is a person somewhere near you who has lost his/her mother and you could become their 'surrogate' mum. Not in anyway replacing your daughter as that's not possible but you maybe could help each other. Stay strong Silka - miracles do sometimes happen.

[silka]

Thank you all for your kind replies, it helps to know there is someone out there.

[crisgal]

hi silka. I have just posted a thread in family.
I wish I had seen yours first.

I shall give them all extra kisses and count my blessings at the same time.

big hug x x x

[cherrybea]

Take comfort sika
My 2nd oldest son left home 21 years ago at the age of 15. He was going out with a girl much older than him and all she wanted was his wages. We knew she was seeing other youths but our son would'nt believe us. It finally came to a head and my son went to live with her brother but she went off with someone else. At least we knew where my son was living then but he eventually stopped phoning then changed his number. We went to visit him but he had moved so we've seen him once in 21 years. I still love him but I've learned how to live with it and you will too. We used to be so close before she came along. Im not a jealous mum,he'd had a nice girl before. I now tell my self " He's not thinking of me so why should I worry about him" Hard I know but it gets you through.

[silka]

Thank you crisgal.

cherry bea thank you for your comforting words.

[bessieboo5]

Silka, my love goes out to you. My mum died nearly 3 years ago on 31 March. I know it is not the same as your daughter going missing, but I feel your pain and understand your loss. I try and ignore all the Mother's Day stuff - tomorrow I am going out for a LONG walk with my dogs and my brother and sister-in-law. In my eyes, every day is Mother's Day, whether they are here or not. It must be dreadful not knowing where your daugher is - my dog got lost for 5 weeks and I was out of my mind so can't even begin to imagine how you feel with your daughter. Do something lovely tomorrow and think of it like a normal Sunday. Take care xxx bessieboo

[devil99]

oh silka, my worries are nothing compared to your agony, please accept a hug & a kiss from me for tomorrow, take care lovie xxxxxx

[janiebaby]

Oh Silka, I read your story with a tear in my eye. I lost both my children to their father when we divorced and even tho I'm supposed to have acces I ahve barely seen my children in 12 years. There are no Mother's Day cards, birthday cards or Christmas cards. I always send them gift for thier birthdays and Christmas, but don't know if they are given them. At least I know where my children are. My heart goes out to you. xxx

[Mamyalynne]

Silka, janiebaby and all who are feeling lost and alone, I am thinking of you and send you a special hug.

Mamya x

[CAJ1]

I know how you feel silka. My parents had me fostered in 2000 and then moved house without giving me their address. I still don't know where they are and have no family around me. It can be lonely and you get on with things but its always there somewhere in your head.

I hope you manage to get through today and I'm sure your daughter thinks of you too especially on days like today x

[lilacben]

Silka, what a lovely name , I knew a silka once and she was a brillant person,as I am sure you are too.! Happy mothers day to you as I am sure wherever your daughter is today she will be thinking of you.
I have lost my mum and miss her very much.When mothers day come around I alwas think of her.
Have you tried councilling at all.? This person I mentioned was mine and she made me feel so much better and come to terms a lot more with my problem. Give it a try just to talk to someone can help, honestly. I learnt keeping things blocked behind this brick wall is really no good for you. the wall needs to come down brick by brick and with it you will see there is light at the end of the tunnel.
If you need someone to talk to then you can alwas talk to me if you would like to.? On here a lot of people would also help I am sure.
Although I am not with you in person I can be there for you.XX

[silka]

I am overwelmed by your comforting messages today.

Bessieboo
janie
devil
mamy
caj
lilac and all the rest.
If I have missed anyone out, sorry.
I have been to work which helps.

lilac thank you as well for offereing to talk to me.

I hope you are all having a wonderfil day. xx

[luwarm]

My mum died in 1994. I would do anything to just spend a moment to see or talk to her again. Be strong, you never know your daughter may come back to you. Make the most of every day, you never know what may happen tomorrow. Love those around you as if today is the last time you will see them. Cherish your family, love your friends. Be positive, live life to the full.

[silka]

luwarm thank you.