taking relationship further

[hbk]

i want to take me and my girlfriends relationship further but she doesnt want to well at first she said she didnt know then she said she would now she says no again, i know i should wait till the time is right but i feel shes messing me about a bit. wat should i do?

[iamnice50]

Everyone has their beliefs on sex. Some people like to wait for marriage, but judging by the fact that you keep asking her I can tell your not one of them. You need to ask yourself when you feel the right time is, but keeping in fact that your partner's belief in sex is every bit as important as yours.

Sexuality and by that, I don't mean sex, is an important part of a relationship and should be taken seriously. If she's "Messing with you" then you should ask yourself if she's worth it.

There are other ways of loving your partner besides having sex!

[ICEMANSAV]

Maybe she is reluctant due to your constant pressure? If you talked together and discussed your feelings then you might be able to gain insight into your relationship, rather than approaching a Q & A site for a method to get her into bed.

[Cockney_si]

You don't mention your age or hers?

Have fun an get to enjoy each others company first, build up a good strong relationship and then worry about all the complexities later, whats the rush!

[lilyfrog]

something to bear in mind. When I was much younger I had sex with a boyfriend cos he wanted to and I wasn't quite ready. We never did it again and then broke up. He then remained single for a couple of months, soooooooo putting pressure on her may result in you not having sex again for a long time, where as if you wait you could enjoy regular nooky that you both enjoy for the forseeable future!!

[secretspirit]

Be patient. I made my man wait 6 weeks of seeing eachother every day until I felt ready and I think it made our relationship stronger. He certainly doesn't regret it now. You should be happy that she's not one to sleep around.