salla:
Of course I'm not saying that!
But you must admit that none of that totally unacceptable and reprehensible behaviour can be forseen as you're walking up the aisle, can it? Otherwise you obviously WOULD be, to use your words, "outa there". That goes without saying.
And when marriages/partnerships fail, there are often multitudes of reasons why, extreme violence being but one example. No, there's no way either my missus or I would have lasted 32 years had violence played any part.
I've had lots of experience of "partnership problems" in a former employment I was in and I realise how violent some relationships are. However, there is no simple solution to any relationship breakdown, that's a fact.
I would never condone violence as a means of "sorting" any relationship problems and have nothing but contempt for those who do.