Can you accept your male partner confiding in another female?

[FEELINLOST]

Surely no matter how rocky your relationship you should never confide in the opposite sex & then boast about it!?

Any thoughts please -thanks
P.S. For those who are fed up of my posts pls forgive me

[radiogaga]

what do you mean then boast about it, did he? to whom?
men perhaps talk to another female to hear a female perspective.
anyway who is this other female?

[FEELINLOST]

My partner said that he ended up meeting up with a female who I have never met! Then when we tried to talk about our probs the female was mentioned & he said check my email & you'll see photos of her & how he's moved on!!!!

I thought he was saying this out of anger but he wasn't it was true - I checked his mail the following day & the email from him said thanks for your support & caring, I had a great night hope to see you soom!!!!!

[Velvetee]

All I can say, he's trying to score points. This other woman, if she exists obviously won't know what a B'stard your husband is, so seek comfort in the fact that he's probably lying.

You still haven't told us why you continue to put up with his behaviour and remain in this unhappy relationship. Life is too short to spend the next half of your life miserable, unfulfilled and dissatisfied?

[rinkins]

Well said velvet - on another note how are things with you?

[Huderon]

Confiding in someone who isn't your partner isn't a sin as such, even if they are the opposite sex.

But telling you about it afterwards and letting you see an email like that ? He's either being totally open with you or he's being open to hide something, and I can't figure out which.

The thanks bit is understandable, it's the bit about her having a great night which would really bother me.

[WiseOldSage]

Not really sure why he is almost goading you to check out this whole email thing - seems a bit suspicious (almost like he is making it up).

I used to have an ex who, if my ex contacted me out of the blue (and I always told him), miraculously his ex had also contacted him (what a co-incidence!). When I asked what had been said he told me he had deleted them but, more likely was, it had never happened and he had nothing to show for it - almost like he wanted to upset me like I had, seemingly, upset him.

I don't think anyone would get upset with your posts - sounds as though, from what other people have said, that you are going through the mill at the moment (I have come in late in the day! LOL). I think you'll get a lot of positive advice on here but, ultimately, the final decision making powers are yours.

[FEELINLOST]

Thanks to all your replys, but still not sure...

To Velvetee- I know you have given me really good advice in the past & up until now. To answer your question regarding putting up with his behaviour is that I still feel deep down we are good together despite unhappy times & the things he says or does, I know it sounds crazy but thats the situation I'm in. We've been together a while & actually planning to marry in September......

[Ankou]

FEELINLOST - I remember your many previous posts and it is sad that things have not moved on for you, or that you have not grown a pair of cojones and stood up for yourself.

I think that your relationship is going down the pan - sorry love, but this has been going for months now - as well as all the other stuff - and we have advised you constantly to talk it through and resolve it/end it before any wedding plans are finalised.

Can you honeslty commit to getting married in the eyes of God (as you intend) with such negative aspects entering your marriage before it has even begun?

[Velvetee]

I don't fathom how you can be marrying him. You think your relationship is good, but how exactly would you classify a bad relationship? If a friend or a close relative told you their partner was doing and saying the things yours does, would you still advise them to marry or even continue the relationship?

Do you honestly think things will improve once you get married? If you still plan to marry him, regardless of the advice anyone gives you, then at least try some couples counselling, which may help you to relate to each other in a better way.

[SuDFB]

life is short... make sure you happy with life sont settle no anything less...

[tiscaliscam]

why not? i only have 2 best friends one is a female i talk to her n she talks to me things she can never tell her husband or mother what's wrong with that? same with me too sure i was in love with her But after we went for dinner couple of times i told her i can never touch another man's wife took me years to be able to turn that love into a friendship same for her too now she really is the closest person on earth for me n she was 6 hours at the hospital after an accident to see if regained consious B4 she went home its Nothing wrong having friends of the opposide sex