my dad is scared of me getting pregnent and has stopped me from going out with my boyfriend can he do this?

[quitegirl]

im 16. i have a boyfriend i have been with him for nearly 7monthes now. my parents have met him and they didnt mind him. But now 6 monthes into our relationship my dad is arguing with my mum and has stopped my boyfriend from taking me home. my dad is scared of me getting pregnet. im not aloud out of the house apart from when im at college. i dont no what to do. can someone help me and give me some advice? please......

[gossipgirl]

firstly i think your dad is being too protective, but hes your dad so he would, although i think he is being a bit excessive with not letting you out of the house! How does your mam stand on the situation? Have you tried sitting down and talking to them together? I would suggest you do that and perhaps even suggest that if it was to make them feel better you would go on the pill, not only for your protection against pregnancy, but for peace of mind, yours aswell as theres. Also explain to them that you are a responsible girl and that they have to trust you, you are going to make mistakes regardless but you will also learn from them, and they have to let you! Also why not ask if your boyfriend can come round for tea with the family so that they can get to know him better too.

[bednobs]

to answer your question, yes he can and no he cant. At 16 you are able to move out of home if you wish, and then are free to make your own rules. However, while you are living with him, and they are suporting you, they are entitled to make the rules

[quitegirl]

thankyou for your advice. i will try and do that but when you say about being on the pill i am but without them knowing and if i told them they would go mad, because they think that if i am put on the injection (like they wanted to) but my mum said no because i could have sex whenever i want it but they dont want me having sex. and my mum dont have a choice she has to go along with what my dad says my parents are VvVEeErRrYYYY STRICT. my mum has already sed to my dad that im responsible but he dont think i am.and i wont be aloud to bring my boyfriend round as my dad wouldn't like it. Thnk u for ur advice everyone.

[Necrophile]

Do you like skid marks quietgirl?

[Beanmistriss]

Are they so strict that you feel you can't talk to them? If you think you can this is what I would do - probably won't be easy but anyhoo. I would ask them to sit down with you to have a chat. Explain to them how them not letting you out is making you feel. Tell them that you know they are worried and especially about you getting pregnant. Tell them you wouldn't want to get pregnant and the reasonns why (I am too young, I want to go to uni, get a job, get married etc etc whatevers relevent to you). Tell them that if and when you do decide to have sex you will take precautins to make sure thet you don't get pregnant. I would ask them if your boyfriend can come round so they can get to know him more ( If they say yes don't the scoot him up to your room, that would make things worse).

I know this sounds like a hard conversation to have and it probably would be. The most important thing is that you come across as an adult. Theres no point if your going to stomp off halfway through, you'll just be proving a point to them. You may not get everything you want but compromise is better than nothing. When you are older you will think back to this time and realise that you knew not nearly as much as you thought you did (that sounds patronising but most people do). I imagine your parents are thinking back to when they were your age and realising they knew nothing and they are just trying to protect you - they are just going about it in the wrong way. perhaps you could get someone else you trust (grandparents?) to suggest to them that they are going about protecting you in the wrong way and that they would do better by creating an environment where you are able to talk to them openly and ask them for advice. Good luck with it anyway :o)