What would you do?

[CAJ1]

I was fostered when I was younger and my only family is my younger brother and the lady who fostered me who I saw as my mum. I live miles away from them and haven't seen them for years but do keep in contact. I spent 5 years with a violent ex who continually told me no one wanted me and kept me from going out so I don't have many good friends.
I have emailed (several times) both my brother and the lady who fostered me and neither of them have bothered replying. Its making me feel like absolute sh*t and something in my head is telling me my ex was right, no one does want me or care enough to even send an email. I have my boyfriend but I am aware if he ever left me I would have no one in this world to give a monkeys about me. I am feeling quite vunerable and upset after managing so well for the last 2 years. My boyfriend has been very understanding about it all but has said that what I do is up to me so what are your opinions...

Should I keep in contact with them as they are all I have or just cut them off completely as I can't deal with being hurt anymore?

[CAJ1]

Oh I can't cheer on Arsenal, the boyfriend supports man u!!! Have a nice evening :o) xxxx

[yogi.bear]

Oh bu88er!!! never mind!!! xxxx

boyfriend still ok in my book, though!....grrrrrrrr

[CAJ1]

lol, I'll secretly cheer both of them on! x

[yogi.bear]

Now THATS what i call a plan, Caj xxxxxx

Enjoy your night, lovely x

:0)))

[pinktwink]

I think you should try and talk to them to see what is going on and let them know how you feel, otherwise you will spend your time worrying. Don't allow others put you down, stand tall and hold your head high. Believe in yourself.

Do you have any other living relatives, aunts , uncles cousins that you are aware of , perhaps you could catch up with them? Does you foster family have familu members you can contact. Concentrate on yourself and your strengths. Whilst friends may not be the same as family at least you get to choose them!!!!! Take up new interests meet new people celebrate your life and all your talents. Good luck

[tamborine]

CAJ1.....we're your new family and friends and we are here for you. That's the good thing about this site.....names become familiar and we build our own ideas on Abers.

We laugh, fight & cry with each other with 'no strings'! And, if we upset all, we can re-invent ourselves (as green) & begin again. You dont have to chase rainbows while you're on here.

[sahida]

Every Test in Our Life Makes US BITTER or BETTER.
Every PROBLEM comes to MAKE US or BREAK US,
CHOICE is OUR'S , whether WE become VICTIM or VICTOR.
CAJI my heart goes out to you, an my PRAYER'S are with YOU, stand tall
an remember one thing no matter what anyone says, you are a V.I.P in this WORLD.

[katerich48]

It seems strange that neither have answered you...Have they ever answered you? I ask because I quite often get emails from people who think they have sent an email to a friend as they have a similar name/email address to me..I have had 5 recently from a teacher who has sent out a mailshot to several of her pupils about their work - and its an almost identical email address as mine....I would have thought someone who was kind enough to foster children would certainly answer your emails..Maybe you should take a trip over to see her and make sure,,.

[CAJ1]

Thanks all for your replies, I've not been on for a few days. I've come to the conclusion that they have my details and if they want to contact me they are more than welcome too. I won't cut them off completley but neither will I try to get in contact with them, the ball is in their court. In the meantime I am going to focus on what I do have and the people who do love me. I've found the last few weeks so hard but wanted to say thank you to you all because along with my lovely boyfriend you've helped me through and made me feel like I wasn't alone. I rarely feel so sorry for myself lol but I guess everyone gets down every once in a while xx

[tamborine]

Great that you are strong enuf to 'turn heel' and find friends beyond family. Take people as you find them.....dont judge unless you have to.

The world is full of new people for you to build friends & relations with.

[CAJ1]

Hi tamborine,

I guess you can either sink or swim and I've done the sinking before and didn't like it! I think my problem is that I have never dealt with anything in my life so when one thing goes wrong it all gets to me for a while until I can see straight again! I know I have one person who loves me more than a million people put together could, thats all I need x