How to talk to a girl

[qandaseeker]

hi, i study english at college and there is this girl i really like. i really want to talk to her, but because i dont have any experience talking to girls, its really hard for me since i spent the latter years of my school in an boys boarding school (years 8 -11).

On couple of occasions she smiled at me and i know she does look at me often,but every time i give her a smile, i can't help it but to looik down and continue my work.

I dont Know how to cope with this. I really dont want to miss this opportunity.

please help me with situation and thanks for all your answers.

[Daniela36]

Next time you see her smile and say 'Hi, how are you?'

If you ask a simple question like this it shows you are interested in her welfare and also she has to answer you.
Go from there. Like vibra says, be yourself.

[squarebear]

Don't tell her that she's fat, no matter how much of a porker she may be.
Don't go out with her sister, no matter how gorgeous she is.
And never, NEVER take your shoes off in hot weather when she is near.

[China Doll]

Could you sugest being a study buddy? It'd be enough not to scare the blinkers off you by asking her for a coffee but casual enough so you can get to know each other and build up some sort of rapour.

Failing that, how about when you leave the class room, time it so you're walking out together and make a flippant comment about the lesson 'that was a good one', 'could that have been more boring' etc... Something that breaks the ice and eases you in to a conversation and gives you a reason to talk to each other in future. Give that a couple of days to see how it goes and then suggest a coffee/whatever.

Ultimately the worst thing she can do is say no, most people don't tend to completely deflate egos and leave you in need of a counsellor for the next fifteen years in the 'rejecting a date' process.... Just remember, if she does say no, it's not because you're unattractive/uninteresting/not worth dating, you just might not float her boat, but you will float someone elses. It will sting but that's it. (And besides, this is worst case scenario territory!)

[squarebear]

Unfortunately, this is one of the reasons why single sex schools do not prepare pupils for later life.

[Ankou]

everyones shy at first, perhaps she is wondering how to talk to you as well. suggestions above about an opening line are fine, cheesy chat u[p lines are best avoided. see if you can think of a decent 'open' question to avoid yes or no answers - you might find some ideas on google.

but at the end of the day if you dont want to miss that opportunity, then you gotta go get it.

[what..the?]

Dont worry about looking over more and smiling at her, dont your ever have moments where your all waiting around out side the english room, couldnt you buy a buy of sweets or something maybe sugerfree and offer her one and smile it a good ice breaker.

i think as a girl speaking here, is you have to get to know her slowly little chats, you dont want to be too forward and ask her straight out on a date, or for a drink get to know her first as almost a friend level by chatting to her about the english work etc and then when you know her more and are more confident then you can ask would she like to go for a coffee after class. This is less like a date and more casual.

1) make more eye contact smile and relax
2) try and chat to her if given the chance, if you struggle with this try and stand near her and then offer her a sweet (make sure it would be something a girl would like not mint might suggest she has bad breath) or just smile and say hi, try to say less than more you dont want to get nervous and waffle just keep is short and sweet.
3) when your more confident talking to her ask her to go for a coffee, or to study together.

[China Doll]

Well we'll overlook the fact that I'm in long, burgondy boots today since it's you Tiggs... Oh, and Irish up the coffee and it's a date!

[Ankou]

burgundy eh? i'm in green today.

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[China Doll]

Tut... I can't see them.

[lizwizz]

if your have her number yet (lol) when you text her, try and keep the convo going by asking questions. then she'll know your into her.
also, when you get confidence (and you will) ask her friends to mention something and report back. that'll save the whole awkwardnosity if she's not ready yet. or something. I hope this is helping rather than putting bad ideas into your head! just think, what's the worst that'll happen? she'll say no. no-one will laugh. your friends should stick up for you if she does (and if not, some friends!) good luck. jeez, i should be taking my own advice!!

[rojash]

Go up to her
Say "Pick a number from 1 to 10"
Whatever number she picks, say "Wrong - get yer kit off"
I promise you this will work.