psychology

[davep69]

Does attachment theory provide a sound basis for advice on bringing up children

[Rystan]

I can't say that there's a correct answer for this, because as with all psychological issues, it's largely a matter of opinion.

Attachment theory doesn't appear to me to be anything more than common sense; the loved and attended to child will generally be well-adjusted and happy. The ignored child will have problems. No surprises there. In this way, it is very much a valid basis for raising a child. Yes, I realize that oversimplifies the theory, but we only have so much space.

The real trick for bringing up a child is your own power of observation. Be aware of likes and dislikes (they'll change frequently in children and infants), strengths and weaknesses, and note mood changes throughout the day. You'll find they often have a pattern. Knowing the pattern and being prepared for the changes in mood can avert unpleasant confrontations between adult and child, though on occasion children like to "test the limits" even when they know their limits well already.

In the end, a child's personality will be a combination of genetic and environmental factors that include items beyond your control; e.g. your child's friends, teachers, etc. in such a way as to make the results completely unpredictable. We all know of children who came from excellent homes, had privilege and love, and turned out to be rotten little bags of dirt anyway (see Lyle and Eric Menendez). Conversely, people who had terrible parents and ill means can become wonderful human beings.

Any theory that preaches loving and nurturing a child is always on the right track, but I'd hesitate to put all my faith in one school of thought.