Greiving

[ummmm]

Did I spell that right?

Anyway...I've now come to the conclusion that time is not a healer.

But youtube's great because my Dad is on there. The funny thing is he's sitting laughing with my BF's Dad.

[andy-hughes]

I think the 'healing' part is innacurate.

What time does is allow you to assimilate your loss into the fabric of your life, but heal? No.

Healing implies repair and renewal, grief builds scar tissue over a wound, the wound is covered, but always there - an important difference.

[mccfluff]

i think time makes things less raw, if you know what i mean, my sis died 10 years ago now, and although shes def not forgotton she's not in the forefront of my mind but then someone can say or do something that reminds me of her and the memories come flooding back

[Sachs]

Hiya ummm x
how special to be able to have that keepsake of your dad!
I've just been over to a neighbour who lost her husband last week, so sad xxx

[zzxxee]

i think the grieving process is very much an individual journey , how people come to terms with it depends very much on you im glad you have found comfort watching your dad on you tube xx

[ummmm]

My Uncle died in his sleep and we always referred to him as 'Uncle Daddy'...Two days later my Dad was told that they think he has a tumour and he had approx 6 months to live. He died 7 months later.

I think I'm being a bit over emotional at the moment. My daughter arrived back from Ireland yesterday as her boyfriend was killed in a car crash a few weeks back.

Andy...great answer as usual xx

[Sachs]

Sorry to hear that ummm x

[silly~lilly]

time eases the pain but it does not heal it. I lost my dad 23 years ago at a fairly young age and it still hurts like it was yesterday, especially if i recall the day it happened. It certainly is easier to deal with these days though but i also grieve for the loss my kids had, for them never having had the pleasure of knowing the wonderful man who was my dad and for him not having the joy of his Grandchildren either. I wish my man could have known him, i wish he had given me away when i got married, i wish he could have been there when i've needed him the most. There are all sorts of things that will always be there, never stop hurting.
I get some comfort believing my Dad is always by my side, watching me, and my kids, even though we can't see him.

ummmm, lovely that you have such a wonderful reminder of him on you tube.So precious. I have nothing apart from a dickie bow that he used to wear when he was a drummer in a band way way back when i was a kid. I have a handful of pics but ya know, nothing can take away the memories, all be it, not enough of them, that are in my head every day.

bless ya. keep smiling. I'm sure you're Dad is smiling down on you knowing his daughter loved him so much. x

[ummmm]

I knew as soon as I got up that I was in bad form.

My cousin phoned me earlier to tell me his Dad has cancer. My Dad's older brother. I just knew something was wrong.

[zig.zag]

come fly away ummmm

not all is awfull lol

x